Perhaps people should consider the first few paragraphs from this 
opinion piece in today's AP Press before they type onto this board 
(or any other) these baseless personal attacks.


Follies of youth can haunt you when they're posted online

Posted by the Asbury Park Press on 03/11/07

It seemed like a good idea at the time.

How often have we all pasted that cartoon balloon over the mental 
image of a youthful indiscretion? Thank goodness no one had a 
camera, we might add.

Now everybody has a camera, and youthful indiscretions are captured 
for all time. And suddenly, we're not so young anymore.

The MySpace-Facebook-dot-com generation has come of age, and some 
are finding that their silly stunts have come back to haunt them as 
they enter the grown-up marketplace. Others are finding that their 
private moments are not so private after all.

Three young women featured anonymously in a recent Washington Post 
article told horror stories of their attempts to find jobs, only to 
discover that they may have been disqualified by online postings by 
virtual strangers. Gossip and graphics included.

One, a Phi Beta Kappa graduate and Yale law student who had gotten 
articles published in law journals, interviewed at 16 firms for a 
summer job and received no offers. How could that be?

It turned out that she and others had been discussed in not-so-
flattering terms on an online message board, AutoAdmit, which is run 
by a third-year law student at the University of Pennsylvania and a 
23-year-old insurance agent, according to the Post. The board boasts 
up to 1 million visitors a month, and postings can be anonymous.

And vicious.

Another woman featured in the Post story is a Yale law student and 
Fulbright scholar who graduated summa cum laude. Not only was she 
the subject of a derogatory AutoAdmit chat, but photographs of her 
were posted on a "hottest" law school student contest site with 
graphic discussions of her attributes.

Not everyone hates to be considered "hot," but this woman was afraid 
to go to the gym because visitors to the site were encouraged to 
take cell-phone pictures of her. Beware the chatterbox in the shower 
stall next door. Another young woman felt afraid when online chatter 
about her led to an anonymous sexual threat.

The tension between free speech and privacy is nothing new, but the 
debate has become more complicated by the explosion in video 
portability and networking Web sites. In today's uncivil society, 
the stakes are high and the rules are low.

Invite anonymity to the mix and hostility finds release in the 
vacuum created when shame went missing.

Unfortunately for some, employers are now using the Internet to vet 
job candidates. They, too, can be privy to those just-for-fun 
college forays, as well as to commentary from those with an ax to 
grind.

The Post reported research showing that about half of U.S. hiring 
officials use the Internet to evaluate job applicants and that about 
one-third had denied employment based on material produced by an 
Internet search engine. Could it happen to you? Apparently, it could 
happen to anyone.

Today's college students frequently post their bios with photos on 
Facebook.com. Innocent and inexperienced in the realm of 
repercussions, they don't hesitate to display their silliest selves, 
clothed and often not.

The generation that was serenaded by Madonna and marinated in sexual 
imagery now dwells in a high-tech, freewheeling, sexually explicit 
environment where porn is the new risque and everybody's gone wild.

Ivy League and other large universities frequently are home to sex 
magazines featuring students who say posing nude is "fun" and 
a "badge of honor," according to last Sunday's New York Times 
magazine. What's the big deal? "A body is a body is a body, and I'm 
proud of my body, and why not show my body?" asks Alecia Oleyourryk, 
co-founder of Boink, a "user-friendly porn" magazine produced by 
students at Boston University.

"It's not going to keep me from having a job."

Famous last words, perhaps.

It is true that a body is just a body, and everybody has one. But 
those who've lived awhile know that what we "knew" with certainty in 
our 20s isn't necessarily what we come to know in our 30s, 40s and 
50s. When you sexualize and objectify yourself, it's asking a lot 
that others — including future bosses — refrain from doing the same.

Advice to the young: If you can't imagine your mother or father 
doing something, you probably shouldn't do it either. Your kids may 
remind you of that someday.

Kathleen Parker's nationally syndicated column appears regularly.





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