Janet, I've been with tm for more than 14 years, and I've learned that feeling like I wasn't doing what I could before, or that I was imposing on my friends is a fallacy!! My friends insist I continue playing cards, etc.......just today one of the ladies wanted to "make up" for the times she couldn't 'do her turn' and I was so glad I could tell her that she didn't owe back, using their kindness to me these last years as an example.
Course, as we all are now in our 70's, and others are having various prob- lems I tell them I just got more attention than any of them will get! Laughing at our frailties helps with the pain.........it's like thumbing your nose at tm!! My 2¢ janh ________________________________ From: Janet Dunn <j.d...@shaw.ca> To: tmic-l...@eskimo.net; tmic-list@eskimo.com Sent: Fri, May 21, 2010 11:10:41 AM Subject: RE: [TMIC] alive What I am really wondering is if one ever really gets to the point of accepting this thing? It has almost been six years (August) and daily I have to decide whether to get up and work with it, fight it, or give into it. Most of the time I fight it. Working with it would make my life easier I suppose, but darn it, I am with Jeron . It has taken a lot away. One of the things that I have discovered after fighting it so hard for five years – to get back to where I used to be before being struck with TM – was that either way, TM or no TM – I could not regain my former self. It would be like suddenly becoming 30 again. It isn’t going to be. I would have aged 5 years whether I had TM or not. That made it much easier for me to realize that life is going to go on, I am going to grow older, and with age comes limitations, TM or not. That might not make sense to others, but it sure helped me quit fighting so hard, and to accept the down days. It also enabled me to lift up my head, look around, and realize that my friends and acquaintances all have their own struggles with growing older, they are just not as visible as mine. Most of them deal with pain every day, in one way or another, just as a matter of course of growing older, and what that in itself can do to the body. But, Jeron, I do totally get where you are coming from. And I wish I could go scuba diving today too – especially since there is a heavy snowfall warning in effect for my area. On May Long weekend no less! Janet
