I complained to my husband's doctor but was afraid that if I
complained to the nursing staff my husband's care would suffer. I
now realize that I should have said something more.
But when you are dealing with cancer surgery you aren't thinking right.
Patti - Wisconsin
No, Patti, I think you made a WISE decision. Since I was in a place
with NO mental deficits and
no sensory deficits, I HEARD nursing staff saying the most incredible
(horrific and insulting) things, because either they thought I
couldn't hear, or they didn't care, or perhaps most people just don't
hear as well as I do (I hear RF, most annoying). This often awakened
me or kept me awake. I relate this to say, the " they" could be
incredibly vengeful and petty. Incredibly petty. I had nurse
advocates while in the hospital who took other nurses to task for
some aspect of my care that I didn't know was neglected.
These women liked me. I remember a nurse who disliked me, who refused
to do things for me. While grateful to have made "friends" this was
all so far from professional and consistent care. So please, banish
the thought, all things being equal it would not have required you to
say anything. ( in other words, if speaking to them would have fixed
it, it would not have gone lacking to begin with)
.... so i think your assessment was sadly correct!
Akua
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