Does anyone have any thoughts about how we can measure some of this? I can
definitely imagine a force pad on someone's back to measure the tension,
but I'm a bit lost as to how he can measure the ground forces (including
possibly torque around a vertical axis)?

I think normal force should be easy. That can be built into a pad on the
ground if nothing else, but friction would be harder.

Unless we had multiple pads each of which had force sensors in all 3 axes
(plus a rotational sensor) does anyone know how much such an apparatus
would cost to build?

Now that I think about 3 axis force sensors, i wonder if there's much
lateral or vertical force in the connection point and whether I'd there is
that feels bad in some natural way.

On Sat, Mar 30, 2024, 13:37 Joe Harrington via Contra Callers <
contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:

> Funny thing, I wrote the email below last Sunday and thought, do the
> world's callers really want a physics calculation on their mailing list?  I
> decided the better of it and didn't send it.  Ok, I guess I was wrong...
>
> What I call support is against centrifugal force, not vertical. Of course,
> there's no need to lift the other dancer, and it's a really poor idea.
>
> As Jeff pointed out, in a fast swing, there's a lot of centrifugal force,
> as seen from our rotating frame of reference in the swing.  For physics
> buffs, centrifugal force increases as the square of velocity, so a swing
> that goes around three times in 8 beats rather than twice (1.5x faster
> rotation, the first-level "fast swing") has 2.25 times as much outward
> force to support.  Estimating a 25 cm radius (about 50 cm between the
> centers of mass of the two dancers, in the middles of their abdomens, which
> I measured with a tape measure) and a 70 kg (150 lb) dancer, that's an
> outward force for each of the two bodies of almost 390 Newtons, or nearly
> 90 pounds.  Much of that will be borne by the friction between the dancer's
> feet and the floor, but the rest will be held by the supporting dancer(s).
> How much depends on how they lean.  For a standard swing (2 rotations per 8
> beats), it's just under 40 lbs.  Fortunately, you only have to hold it for
> four to eight seconds at a time, or actually less as you accelerate and
> decelerate inside that time, though the peak force will then be higher.
>
> ...and now I add...
>
> Despite starting with it above, myself, I think we're somewhat misleading
> ourselves with this Mv**2/r calculation.
>
> The key thing here is that a centrifugal-force calculation (centripetal,
> actually) makes some assumptions that we dramatically violate when we
> dance. We are not rigid bodies. At best, we're collections of many light
> rigid bodies (our bones) linked by ligaments, tendons, and muscles, and
> bearing all sorts of other masses that move relative to one another,
> storing momentum until we can deal with it in the next step.  We
> effectively pump momentum up from our feet, into our bodies, and down to
> our feet on each step. We transfer it to the other dancer through our arms
> and theirs, and their back, if we have a hand there.
>
> With that in mind, consider this model of a swing.  Each dancer's upper
> half is trying to execute rigid circular motion.  Our lower bodies (hips
> down) are doing something else, and half our mass is down there.  So, drop
> my estimated 90 lbs to 45 just for that (I'll drop it more in a minute).
> The lower half is essentially stepping a figure with 90 or 135 degree
> corners on each beat.  Consider the left foot.  In a standard swing (2x in
> 8 beats), it is walking a square, directing momentum along the sides of the
> square that the upper body picks up and turns into rotation.  Half of each
> square side brings that leg closer to the middle, the other half takes it
> farther away.  We land, push off, and do it again and again. That push-off
> supports the centripetal needs of both legs (through the hip joint) and
> some of the upper body.  If there is an outward lean off the right foot,
> additional centripetal support is needed from either the legs or arms.  The
> right foot is mainly a pivot, while both feet support gravitational weight.
>
> Good dancers constantly adjust how far out their left feet land on each
> step and how hard they push off, simultaneously satisfying both their
> centripetal needs and the required spin rate.  This lets them control how
> much inward force they draw from their feet into the upper-body rotation to
> supplement the arms.  That reduces the support needed from the arms well
> below 45 lbs.  It can reduce it to zero.  Tweaking the lean also adjusts
> where the axis of rotation is, to balance the different masses of the
> dancers and make their differing force impulses produce matched torque
> impulses.  Dancers use the beat to step in sync with the other dancer's
> legs, or these torque impulses would come at different times, and the swing
> would wobble and fall apart, as Chris Lacey alluded to.
>
> So, yeah, it's complicated, yet even children solve this problem when they
> swing.  Everyone is an intuitive physicist!  And, each time I think about
> this kind of thing, I get more amazed at the engineers who make robots.
> Has anyone taught a robot to do a contra swing, yet?
>
> --jh--
>
>
> On Sun, Mar 24, 2024 at 3:24 PM Julian Blechner <
> juliancallsdan...@gmail.com> wrote:
>
>> Hi Joe,
>>
>> You mean, palms flat on the back of shoulderblades? If so, it's how I
>> teach it, lots of callers teach it, and this is the first I've heard a
>> complaint about it.
>>
>> That said, you describe: "I've had my elbow bent backward by eager robins
>> pressing my elbow in to get their elbow in the right place."
>>
>> That _sounds like_ what I call "arm clamping". While yes, putting Robin's
>> hand on the outside of the shoulder also alleviates the clamping, it's not
>> the only way to fix it. A Robin can lift their elbow. (I just workshopped
>> the issue with my partner in the living room to test a variety of height
>> and holds out to confirm what you were saying, as well.)
>>
>> The other issue is that if both dancers don't have hands flat on the
>> backs of each other, it's more difficult to maintain an open frame when
>> swinging. One usually winds up _closer_ when hands are resting on
>> shoulders, unless one dancer is significantly stronger and the other is
>> fairly petite.
>>
>> I know that my right arm will get seriously fatigued and sore if I have
>> an evening too many times as Lark with Robins providing insufficient
>> support. And I've heard plenty of dancers say similar.
>>
>> That said, all bodies are different. If yours works where the swing hold
>> works better for you the way you describe, that is what it is, yeah? But I
>> might recommend considering workshopping swings further, because what
>> you're requesting is counter to prevailing teaching. If I understand
>> correctly (and it's always possible I'm missing something.)
>>
>> In dance,
>> Julian Blechner
>>
>>
>> On Sun, Mar 24, 2024, 1:13 PM Joe Harrington <contradancer...@gmail.com>
>> wrote:
>>
>>> Not the standard ballroom, with the robin's arm on top of the lark's,
>>> but an alternative that I've seen occasionally, but for a number of years
>>> now, where the robin tries to put their left hand in the same location on
>>> the lark's back as the lark has their right hand on the robin's back.  I
>>> know at least one prominent caller who teaches this hold in their newbie
>>> workshop and tells their dancers that both sides need to do this to provide
>>> equal support in the swing.
>>>
>>> While I like the principle, the practice can hurt. If the dancers are
>>> not grossly mismatched in size/arm length, it won't be possible to do this
>>> without their elbows occupying the same space.  I've had my elbow bent
>>> backward by eager robins pressing my elbow in to get their elbow in the
>>> right place.  Even if it doesn't go all the way to pain, it pretty much
>>> eliminates my ability to provide any support, unless I "fight back" by
>>> pushing my elbow out and resisting the inward pressure, essentially
>>> refusing the position.  I'm also focusing entirely on protecting my elbow,
>>> so it kills any enjoyment in that swing.
>>>
>>> Please gently discourage this hold.  If a robin wants to give major
>>> support in a swing, the symmetric swing holds, the barrel, the one Jeff
>>> described, or even a mirror of the ballroom where the lark's arm is on top
>>> are much better opportunities.  A robin whose arm is longer than their
>>> lark's arm can also reach over or around the shoulder in a ballroom hold
>>> (robin's arm on top) to add support.  Just don't push down on the shoulder.
>>>
>>> --jh--
>>>
>>>
>>> On Fri, Mar 22, 2024 at 9:21 AM Julian Blechner <
>>> juliancallsdan...@gmail.com> wrote:
>>>
>>>> JJ,
>>>>
>>>> I like your point about the sort of code-switching that the asymmetry
>>>> of a ballroom hold provides to reinforce what role one is dancing.
>>>>
>>>> Joe,
>>>>
>>>> I don't understand what you mean about the ballroom hold having elbows
>>>> occupy the same space. I think I'd need to see it (in person or picture).
>>>> That said, it raises the broader issue, which is the overall topic, that
>>>> everyone has different physical needs and finding happy mediums is our goal
>>>> for everyone dancing together. Your issue with ballroom hold handholds as
>>>> such is a good reminder for me that no one - not even seasoned callers -
>>>> can anticipate every need or difference.
>>>>
>>>> In dance,
>>>> Julian Blechner
>>>>
>>>> On Thu, Mar 21, 2024, 10:38 PM JJ <jcg...@gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>
>>>>> Personally for me, the standard ballroom swing helps me to "flip the
>>>>> switch" in the brain on which side of the swing I'm "supposed to" end on
>>>>> (assuming we're not switching roles back and forth for fun lol). If my 
>>>>> left
>>>>> arm is the "pointy arm," I'm ending on the left; if my right arm is the
>>>>> "pointy arm," I'm ending on the right. I don't have to consciously tell
>>>>> myself "I'm the Lark" or "I'm the Robin," my muscle memory just takes over
>>>>> and I just end on whichever side my arm position tells me to 😅.
>>>>>
>>>>> I enjoy neutral swings, but if we're not planning on switching roles
>>>>> without warning through an individual dance, I tend to stick with the
>>>>> traditional ballroom figure.
>>>>>
>>>>> On Thu, Mar 21, 2024, 22:33 Jeff Kaufman via Contra Callers <
>>>>> contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>> "At the time, it almost never happened that the one in the lady's
>>>>>> role actually swung like a lady.  I'm not sure when that became the 
>>>>>> norm."
>>>>>>
>>>>>> When I started dancing both roles, around 2005, I remember initially
>>>>>> doing it as you said, with gender-neutral swings with the gents I
>>>>>> encountered.  I remember being surprised sometime around 2006-2007 when I
>>>>>> ran into a few guys dancing switch who indicated they wanted to do the
>>>>>> standard ballroom hold.  By 2008-2009 I think my male friends and I were
>>>>>> dancing the lady's role in the standard way?
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Jeff
>>>>>>
>>>>>> On Thu, Mar 21, 2024 at 10:16 PM Joe Harrington via Contra Callers <
>>>>>> contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>>>>>>
>>>>>>> I love the barrel hold, but some of my partners have reacted in a
>>>>>>> way that indicated it was too intimate for them.  This is especially 
>>>>>>> true
>>>>>>> if I have to lean over to do it, as that puts my face pretty close to
>>>>>>> theirs (I'm pretty tall).  It's also difficult to do without frontal
>>>>>>> contact if one or both partners is well on the heavy side.  But, all 
>>>>>>> that
>>>>>>> aside, if you and your partner like fast swings, it's a great hold, more
>>>>>>> stable than ballroom, with four arms providing support rather than one.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> In the late 1980s and early 1990s, when guys danced the lady's role
>>>>>>> (using the terminology of the time for reasons you'll see in a moment),
>>>>>>> we'd almost universally be offered the "gender-neutral swing", which is
>>>>>>> symmetrical and very stable for fast swinging: both right arms are 
>>>>>>> around
>>>>>>> the other's back and both left arms go over/around the other's right 
>>>>>>> arm,
>>>>>>> bend 90 degrees at the elbow, pass between you, and clasp left hands 
>>>>>>> around
>>>>>>> each other's forearms between your bodies.  At the time, it almost never
>>>>>>> happened that the one in the lady's role actually swung like a lady.  
>>>>>>> I'm
>>>>>>> not sure when that became the norm.  I would occasionally do it with a
>>>>>>> particular guy partner whom I liked to dance with.  We practiced it 
>>>>>>> first
>>>>>>> and then did it with each other, but we gender-neutral-swung our
>>>>>>> neighbors.  We got some pretty surprised looks from our neighbors when 
>>>>>>> we
>>>>>>> swung each other. At least one guy asked me if that partner and I were 
>>>>>>> an
>>>>>>> item.  Times and role terms and what people read into dance behavior
>>>>>>> change...
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> In general, I'm quite happy to swing with guys in either role when
>>>>>>> they're happy to swing with me.  But, it's awkward and uncomfortable in 
>>>>>>> the
>>>>>>> extreme to be going up an entire line of consecutive frowns, growls, and
>>>>>>> looks of disgust as a guy dancing the robbin...enough that I haven't
>>>>>>> returned to the dance weekend where that happened in Fall 2022, even 
>>>>>>> though
>>>>>>> it was pretty great in other ways.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> The one swing style I really dislike is a modified ballroom position
>>>>>>> where the robbin tries to put their hand on the lark's back in the same
>>>>>>> place where the lark's hand is on theirs.  I know some people actually
>>>>>>> teach it this way, I guess as some kind of equality thing.  It's 
>>>>>>> terrible,
>>>>>>> because their elbow and the lark's elbow then have to occupy the same
>>>>>>> space, which, well, physics.  If I'm the lark and their arm is outside
>>>>>>> mine, when they try to provide support, it hyperextends my right elbow,
>>>>>>> eliminating any chance I can provide support and sometimes inducing pain
>>>>>>> before I can either force my elbow back out, displacing their hand from 
>>>>>>> my
>>>>>>> back, or pull my arm up to rest it on their arm in a mirror of the
>>>>>>> traditional ballroom hold.  I hope we can convince everyone to stop
>>>>>>> teaching this hold, as it usually doesn't work as intended and it can 
>>>>>>> hurt
>>>>>>> the lark.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> One assist that does work in ballroom position and requires no
>>>>>>> communication is, if the robbin's arm is as long as or longer than the
>>>>>>> lark's, they rest their left arm on the lark's right, extending the 
>>>>>>> entire
>>>>>>> length of the arm and then reaching around/over the lark's shoulder to
>>>>>>> provide some support on the shoulder blade.  In my case, at least, if 
>>>>>>> they
>>>>>>> are short enough that they can't do this, then they're often also light
>>>>>>> enough that additional support isn't critical, though it does make for 
>>>>>>> more
>>>>>>> connection.  It's important not to press down on the shoulder, though. 
>>>>>>> Only
>>>>>>> pull forward.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> --jh--
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> On Thu, Mar 21, 2024 at 12:52 PM Julian Blechner via Contra Callers <
>>>>>>> contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> At the last couple of dances in the last few days, I thought about
>>>>>>>> this email thread and observations.
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> Short and simple:
>>>>>>>> A "barrel hold" swing:
>>>>>>>> - Seemed to provide a little bit more space than a ballroom hold
>>>>>>>> - One neighbor offered it (by chance) really clearly, as a lark,
>>>>>>>> with his left arm curved into a sort of "offer a hug" type position. 
>>>>>>>> As we
>>>>>>>> engaged in the swing hold, he placed his left arm in place, and it 
>>>>>>>> guided
>>>>>>>> things in. It worked pretty well for me, at least as an experienced 
>>>>>>>> dancer.
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> In dance,
>>>>>>>> -Julian Blechner
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> On Sat, Mar 16, 2024 at 4:18 PM becky.liddle--- via Contra Callers <
>>>>>>>> contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> I can’t answer whether the robin's would always HAVE to go above
>>>>>>>>> the lark’s in the modified ballroom swing, but I would intuitively 
>>>>>>>>> think
>>>>>>>>> that having that rule/understanding might make it easier for dancers 
>>>>>>>>> to
>>>>>>>>> make the transition from ballroom to modified ballroom because the 
>>>>>>>>> robin’s
>>>>>>>>> arm is always on top in standard ballroom swing. Also, the lark’s 
>>>>>>>>> hand is
>>>>>>>>> typically cupped upwards with the robin’s hand above the lark’s in 
>>>>>>>>> things
>>>>>>>>> like a balance or even a handhold in a circle move, so having the 
>>>>>>>>> hand/arm
>>>>>>>>> orientations the same in the swing would also seem more intuitive to 
>>>>>>>>> me if
>>>>>>>>> I were just learning this swing.
>>>>>>>>> Becky
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> On Mar 16, 2024, at 12:25 PM, Katherine Kitching via Contra
>>>>>>>>> Callers <contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net> wrote:
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> Hi John, thanks for all your comments. I like this swing at
>>>>>>>>> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FUiXStkCHGs from 0:05 to 0:15 -
>>>>>>>>> for spacing -- and I'm going to introduce it at our next dance!  
>>>>>>>>> Though
>>>>>>>>> what I think Becky found interesting about the variation we're 
>>>>>>>>> working on
>>>>>>>>> is that it retains the "pointy hands", which can be useful.
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> The one thing that I was confused about when I read your message:
>>>>>>>>> you say when you tried the swing variation our group has been 
>>>>>>>>> experimenting
>>>>>>>>> with (visual at 
>>>>>>>>> https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/ebotfe2jksbr3dqbjyiuf/Modified-Ballroom-Swing-elbow-hold.jpg?rlkey=ekblzvpc2tk2hkbtfrh9u96au&dl=0
>>>>>>>>> )
>>>>>>>>> <https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/ebotfe2jksbr3dqbjyiuf/Modified-Ballroom-Swing-elbow-hold.jpg?rlkey=ekblzvpc2tk2hkbtfrh9u96au&dl=0>
>>>>>>>>> -- you say that you found the grip insufficient, for the arms that
>>>>>>>>> are holding just above the elbow.
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> But in my mind, this hold that me and my partner are doing with
>>>>>>>>> his left hand my right hand ,  is supposed to be the same as the hold 
>>>>>>>>> you
>>>>>>>>> use in this video of yours - (but in your case, your left hand and her
>>>>>>>>> right hand.)
>>>>>>>>> Maybe I didn't execute it properly, but it is what I intended:
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> https://youtu.be/yUbi1B2Edk0?si=HL-3jgI95LtGZBQ_&t=198
>>>>>>>>> Starts at 3:18.
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> Thoughts?
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> Also, is anyone able to answer my question to Winston -
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> Is it a given, due to something in the asymmetric nature of the
>>>>>>>>> hold, that in this video referenced by Allan -
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQ0R5iHT-l8 
>>>>>>>>> <https://youtu.be/yUbi1B2Edk0?si=HL-3jgI95LtGZBQ_&t=198>   or in the 
>>>>>>>>> photo I shared above via Dropbox, that the Robin's arm will *always* 
>>>>>>>>> go above the Lark's arm?
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> Or could the placement of the arms vary depending on the relative 
>>>>>>>>> height of the two dancing partners?
>>>>>>>>> (for example with a 6' tall Lark and a 5' tall Robin, would the 
>>>>>>>>> Robin's arm still be above the Lark's?
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> Thanks all!
>>>>>>>>> Kat K in Halifax
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> John Sweeney via Contra Callers
>>>>>>>>> <contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net>
>>>>>>>>> Thursday, March 14, 2024 7:23 AM
>>>>>>>>> Hi Kat,
>>>>>>>>> Yes, I thought you meant something like you show in your photo.
>>>>>>>>> When you mentioned Jeff's photo I did wonder, as it is what I call a
>>>>>>>>> Foreshortened Hold in my video and brings you closer together rather 
>>>>>>>>> than
>>>>>>>>> further apart.
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> I picked up the Foreshortened Hold from the cover of Zesty Contras
>>>>>>>>> and love it. I was surprised when I analysed the 600 dancers at a 
>>>>>>>>> contra
>>>>>>>>> dance at The Flurry and realised that nobody else was using it!
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> We tried your Modified Ballroom Hold Swing and didn't feel that it
>>>>>>>>> really worked. With my right arm underneath there didn't seem to be 
>>>>>>>>> enough
>>>>>>>>> connection to have a really good swing unless Karen gripped my arm. I 
>>>>>>>>> felt
>>>>>>>>> that my hand might slide down. With my right arm on top Karen felt 
>>>>>>>>> that it
>>>>>>>>> was pulling on her shoulder even though I wasn't gripping - it was 
>>>>>>>>> just
>>>>>>>>> awkward. So, sorry, but I won't be using that one.
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> Re all the references to sore arms/hands/wrists/etc. The biggest
>>>>>>>>> problem is that people are told to "give weight". I don't want your 
>>>>>>>>> weight!
>>>>>>>>> People misunderstand and lean back or sideways. If people control 
>>>>>>>>> their own
>>>>>>>>> weight then all the connection has to do is counter centrifugal force 
>>>>>>>>> and
>>>>>>>>> that it not a lot inless you spin really fast.
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> I always start a Swing lesson by getting the dancers to Buzz on
>>>>>>>>> the spot BY THEMSELVES. Then when they connect they keep their own 
>>>>>>>>> balance
>>>>>>>>> and weight.
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> I have had major operations on both my shoulders (too much
>>>>>>>>> Repetitive Strain Injury from another style of dance that is taught 
>>>>>>>>> badly,
>>>>>>>>> and then lots of Aerials:
>>>>>>>>> https://youtu.be/CJnL_Y63AnY?si=RqKHSw5MQmhiuIFT - maybe I
>>>>>>>>> shouldn't have started doing those in my fifties!). Anyway, I can't 
>>>>>>>>> afford
>>>>>>>>> to let people damage my shoulders. With a good partner I can Swing at 
>>>>>>>>> high
>>>>>>>>> speeds with no problem. Whenever someone leans back or sideways I 
>>>>>>>>> just slow
>>>>>>>>> the Swing down and lessen my connection so that they have to take 
>>>>>>>>> their own
>>>>>>>>> weight or fall over.
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> Anyway, if you can get everyone to keep their own weight you will
>>>>>>>>> find it is much less strain on your arm/hand/wrist.
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> The standard Quebecois Swing has the feet interleaved. They seem
>>>>>>>>> to do it without any problem. It is just a different feel and takes 
>>>>>>>>> some
>>>>>>>>> getting used to.
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> Someone mentioned the challenges with being too close in a Ceilidh
>>>>>>>>> Swing (http://contrafusion.co.uk/SwingWorkshop.html#Ceilidh ) -
>>>>>>>>> you could always try the Forearm Swing instead (
>>>>>>>>> http://contrafusion.co.uk/SwingWorkshop.html#Linked ) - same
>>>>>>>>> principle, but further apart so no bodily contact.
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> Happy dancing,
>>>>>>>>> John
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> John Sweeney, Dancer, England j...@modernjive.com 01233 625 362 &
>>>>>>>>> 07802 940 574
>>>>>>>>> http://www.contrafusion.co.uk for Dancing in Kent
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>
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>>>>>>>>> becky.liddle--- via Contra Callers
>>>>>>>>> <contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net>
>>>>>>>>> Wednesday, March 13, 2024 10:20 PM
>>>>>>>>> For me, the enforced intimacy is about the proximity of bodies and
>>>>>>>>> lack of physical air space between them. The huge difference between a
>>>>>>>>> swing in contra vs., say, agreeing to dance a waltz or a swing dance 
>>>>>>>>> with
>>>>>>>>> someone, is that by agreeing to dance you’re agreeing to swing with 
>>>>>>>>> EVERY
>>>>>>>>> opposite-role person in the line, not just the person you asked to 
>>>>>>>>> dance.
>>>>>>>>> That’s a much bigger commitment to physical contact/intimacy than 
>>>>>>>>> saying
>>>>>>>>> yes to one person.
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> As a side note, before we got rid of a lecherous dancer in our
>>>>>>>>> group a few years ago, MANY women in our dance group chose their 
>>>>>>>>> contra
>>>>>>>>> dance line specifically to avoid having to swing with him. The most
>>>>>>>>> important intervention was, of course, to establish a code of conduct 
>>>>>>>>> which
>>>>>>>>> we used to remove him from the dance group (when it became clear he 
>>>>>>>>> would
>>>>>>>>> not agree to change his behaviour). But for women (and others, but 
>>>>>>>>> it’s
>>>>>>>>> always been women who have said this to me over the years), when they 
>>>>>>>>> come
>>>>>>>>> to a dance not KNOWING whether there MIGHT be a letch in the line, it 
>>>>>>>>> is
>>>>>>>>> asking quite a lot to expect them to do a ballroom swing with whoever 
>>>>>>>>> comes
>>>>>>>>> at them. I am wondering whether the modified ballroom hold might make
>>>>>>>>> contra feel safer, especially for new dancers.
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> I’d love to hear what folks who have used both feel about the
>>>>>>>>> difference.
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> Becky
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> On Mar 13, 2024, at 4:34 PM, Julian Blechner
>>>>>>>>> <juliancallsdan...@gmail.com> <juliancallsdan...@gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> I would love to read elaboration / articulation on why a ballroom
>>>>>>>>> hold feels more "intimate" than other holds?
>>>>>>>>>
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>>>>>>>>> <contracallers@lists.sharedweight.net>
>>>>>>>>> Wednesday, March 13, 2024 5:34 PM
>>>>>>>>> I would love to read elaboration / articulation on why a ballroom
>>>>>>>>> hold feels more "intimate" than other holds?
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> Is it a matter of the historical social attachment we have in our
>>>>>>>>> minds with couples dances that use the hold, and romance in our 
>>>>>>>>> culture?
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> Is it a physical proximity? (I find ceilidh holds to be closer,
>>>>>>>>> crossed arms has my hands bearish their belly which has its own 
>>>>>>>>> intimacy to
>>>>>>>>> me, though sometimes barrel holds can be done with a bit more space -
>>>>>>>>> though I wouldn't say the default)
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> Is it something else?
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> Maybe if we looked at the why, it'd give insight to what a
>>>>>>>>> solution to an alternate swing hold and/or an adjusted mindset might 
>>>>>>>>> entail?
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> In dance,
>>>>>>>>> Julian Blechner
>>>>>>>>> He/him
>>>>>>>>> Western Mass
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>
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