TP I really hope this blows over. I know how difficult it is to communicate through email when you think you're being perfectly clear and sensitive. I write a lot of emails @ work sometimes and I sent one email to someone, telling her that her "calculations were incorrect". She interpreted this to mean I thought she couldn't do math, even though she didn't add up the figures. She escalated this up to a VP trying to get me in trouble for this even though I apologized AND the calculations *were* incorrect. How else was I supposed to say that???
Anyway, I hope this all blows over for you. Anyone who has been reading/writing email for an extended period of time should know how easy it is to read the wrong things into what someone writes. Anyone who takes offense too easilly from email needs to calm down and realize it's a very difficult medium to communicate in. I didn't get the feeling you were complaining about not spinning @ the festival, if nothing else because you included so many disclaimers in the post, and you said a couple of times that you had to turn down offers. I think this was more a case of careless reading than careless writing. I hope you'll continue to share your thoughts with us on 313 and iacitybeats. Tristan ========================================== PHONOPSIA<[EMAIL PROTECTED]> http://www.geocities.com/SunsetStrip/Lounge/5102/index.htm "FrogboyMCI" on AOL Instant Messenger New mix, "Propper Techno" and new Album, "Québécois", online now. -----Original Message----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: 313@hyperreal.org <313@hyperreal.org> Date: Thursday, June 01, 2000 3:38 PM Subject: [313] A Terrence Parker APOLOGY/DEMF - a misinterpretation of my words >Greetings to all! > >It has been brought to my attention that some of what I wrote in my e-mail >entitled "Terrence Parker/DEMF" has hurt several people. Some of these >individuals are people who I've known, admired, and had wonderful friendships >with for many years. >The most difficult part now for me is knowing that some of those people have >lost faith in me. That really disappoints me more than I could ever express >to you cats in words. Having said that, I am going to attempt to make "right" >a wrong, even though the damage has already been done. > >The reason why the e-mail was written in that manner is because I was >attempting to answer the many questions asked of me. I received more than 100 >e-mail letters from all over the world, from those who did, and those who did >not attend the Detroit Electronic Music Festival. They all asked WHY I did >not spin. I did not (and still do not) have the time to respond to each >letter, so I decided to try and answer everyone's questions in one e-mail >letter (distributed via the 313 List and my TP FAN CLUB List). I thought that >my e-mail was written with a very positive tone. But apparently I was wrong. >Now some people who I LOVE VERY MUCH ON A VERY PERSONAL LEVEL have been hurt. > >Allow me to clarify certain comments written in my original e-mail: > >The reason why I could not spin on Monday was because there were already some >very strict rules and regulations in place that would not allow certain >stages to operate past certain times. For one thing, security staff who had >been hired to work at these stages had agreed to work until certain >pre-designated times. To extend performances on any stage past these times >would not be fair to those working security, and furthermore would have >violated several agreements. The equipment was insured under similar >conditions. > >When I wrote (HMMM) after I commented about the insurance on the equipment, >it was meant to be a gesture to the reader to think about and conclude that >there was no malicious intent behind why I wasn't spinning, but instead a set >of several important circumstances which just didn't allow for me to be >involved this year. > >When I said "these efforts were defeated", I meant it in the same way that my >desire to accept Hannah's original offer to spin on Saturday, May 27th was >defeated by my preexisting booking in Germany. > >When I spoke about promoting the DEMF on Electric Circus, I was trying to >make a point to those who sent me e-mail letters suggesting that I should be >angry for not being included. if I was upset in any manner about not spinning >at the DEMF, I wouldn't have promoted it on Much Music/CityTV. How could I be >upset when it was I who turned down Hannah's offer to spin? I was never upset >about not spinning, and I thought that sharing my experience on Electric >Circus would clearly illustrate that point. > >When I pointed out that I wasn't offered a slot on Monday, I was responding >specifically to those people who asked about the TBA's on the DEMF flyer and >the originally posted 313 line up for Monday, May 29th. I wanted those people >to know that I was specifically addressing their questions on this matter, as >I was attempting to do throughout the entire e-mail. However, in doing so, I >gave the impression that I was saying or implying something negative rather >than positive. > >I AM DEEPLY AND SINCERELY SORRY TO THOSE WHO WERE HURT BECAUSE OF MY >COMMENTS! IT WAS NEVER MY INTENTION TO HURT ANYONE. INSTEAD, I WANTED TO >ANSWER ALL OF THE QUESTIONS I RECEIVED, AND MAKE CLEAR MY SUPPORT FOR THE >DEMF, AND FOR ALL OF THOSE WHO WERE INVOLVED. > >If I am guilty of anything, it's not being an English Major, thus not being >able to properly communicate my thoughts and feelings at times. I know how I >feel about certain things, but I am not the best at communicating those >feelings in writing. >I think I communicate much better orally. > >In closing, I want to say that I was honored when asked by Hannah, Johnny O & >Dan, Lenny Burden, Linda G, Meighan & Alvin, Beau Gangier, and Gary of >Melodies & Memories to participate in various events held during or after the >DEMF. If I am never asked to participate in future DEMF events, I will always >support it because I believe in what it stands for - THE MUSIC. I have made a >lot of sacrifices because of my belief in the music. I have lost jobs because >of it; many years ago I was homeless and slept in my car in the middle of >winter because of it; and apparently now I have lost some dear friends >because of it. So I wont be posting anything else for a while. > >I hope this clears up ALL misunderstandings. > >peace & respect, > >TP > > > > >--------------------------------------------------------------------- >To unsubscribe, e-mail: [EMAIL PROTECTED] >For additional commands, e-mail: [EMAIL PROTECTED] __________________________________________________ Do You Yahoo!? Talk to your friends online with Yahoo! Messenger. http://im.yahoo.com
