I feel, as long as girl is okay despite she knowing that one day you may go completely blind there should not be an issue.
Warm Regards, Tilak. On 3/20/18, Dr. B. S. M. Kumar <drbsmku...@gmail.com> wrote: > Hi, > I'm 54yrs old and am married to a sighted woman, for the past 25yrs. I'm a > patient of RP since my birth and currently have lost my vision completely. > At the time of my marriage, during 1993, I had tunnel vision, and could > move > around freely during day time and had difficulty moving around in night and > in darkness. > Kindly call me at my mobile number given at my signature and will guide you > suitably. > Kind regards, > > > Prof. B.S.M. Kumar, M.Sc., M.Tech., PhD. > Director (Industry and Education Relationship), Project Starfish > Email: kumar....@pstarfish.org > Linkedin: https://in.linkedin.com/in/dr-kumar-bsm-39887864 > Twitter: @BSMKumar1 > Cell: +91-9840139849 > Skype: bsm.kumar > | > www.pstarfish.org > | > "An integrated opportunity and employment platform for the blind and A > shared service for business and start-ups" > > -----Original Message----- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf > Of Abhisar Waghmare > Sent: 20 March 2018 10:15 > To: B. R. Nautial; AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and > issues concerning the disabled. > Subject: Re: [AI] Serious advice needed on the issue of marriage with a > sighted girl > > I may be too small to advice over this but I feel that take the girl's > parents into confidence. Tell them why she will be happy with you, be it > mentally,physically , financially or whatever. You need to win the trust of > people from girl's side. No doubt your parents have a major role to play in > this, because they are the perfect person who can put your point perfectly > in front of girl's parents. You know big people have their own mutual > understanding. > Other thing dont let the girl feel that you are pulling back in any way > show your constant efforts, talk to her even over phone , keep her > convinced, because if you loose her you loose everything. Also you have to > be very clever in putting this point that you are not going to marry her > uncle. This may seem vague but very carefully and cleverly try to put her > uncle in your place and allow him to think the way you and your parents are > thinking. Just make sure you dont offend anybody, be extremely polite. Dont > let any negative comment overcome you constanltly keep answering them > positively. and very important dont keep the girl in any dark be it even > about your RP case, whatever it is if your sight will stay stable or will > it deteriorate with time. Just be true. Girls love it. > Cheers Sir. All the best! > > On Mon, Mar 19, 2018 at 8:28 PM, B. R. Nautial <brnaut...@gmail.com> wrote: > >> First of all, take your parrents in confidence and go forward according >> their advice only. >> Don't take any decision in hurry at all because one wrong decision may >> change your life. >> As our moderator made it clear that vision is not the only criteria for >> choosing of a life partner. I am sure! you'll get so many good advise >> from >> many of our talented & experienced members. Best of luck! ----- Original >> Message ----- From: "Alvesh Shokeen" <alveshshok...@gmail.com> >> To: "accessindia" <accessindia@accessindia.org.in> >> Sent: Monday, March 19, 2018 03:08 PM >> Subject: [AI] Serious advice needed on the issue of marriage with a >> sighted girl >> >> >> Hi friends and seniors, I am 30 years old, well educated and central >>> government employee. I have some serious issue with my eyesight, as >>> the doctors say that I have Retinitis Pigmentosa, which is stable and >>> I have fair eyesight to manage my all day to day chores except reading >>> writing and driving. People generally don't recognize me easily that I >>> am having problem of eyesight. >>> Before few months I was introduced to a girls family with a view of >>> marriage, the girl was also there. The girls family liked me looking >>> my job and higher education, as I am well settled in my life. >>> Thereafter I started chatting with that girl, she also started liking >>> me and we started talking on phone for longer hours. I clearly told >>> that girl that I have serious issue with my eyesight, and I can see >>> little, and I prefer to take someone with me if I go out to unknown >>> places or while traveling. She looked perfectly fine with that, she >>> told me that she will be with me in any case. Then second time her >>> family came to meet me formally and I told her father about my >>> eyesight issue, he also looked quite normal with that, and he said >>> that physical problem may hit anyone so we are ok with it. Thereafter >>> we met in a function again. Everything was going normal. But nothing >>> sort of engagement etc was done as my family was not ready to fix the >>> marriage so erly. >>> In between few of my relatives told the mother of the girl that this >>> boy has very serious issue with his eyesight, as he can not go outside >>> alone, and he can not walk in sunlight and he can not do his work >>> independently. After listening this all (which is not true) her mother >>> created lots of drama, and convinced the father of girl that they will >>> not marry their daughter to me. >>> Now present situation is that the girl is in full favour of me, she is >>> trying her best to convince her parants that she has no issue with >>> eyesight problem of the boy. But her mother is torturing her and >>> blackmailing her emotionally saying that you will always be in pain if >>> you will not be obedient to your mother. >>> So dear friends, kindly suggest me what should I do here, should I >>> talk to her parants and try to remove their doubts about the situation >>> which they have visualized in their minds on the account of my poor >>> eyesight? Because they are saying only thing that how will he manage >>> if he has poor eyesight. Should I try to save my relationship with >>> that girl who is supporting me despite of my visual impairment? Will I >>> be losing an understanding and supporting life partner if I let this >>> relationship go? Or will it emotionally hurt me back as the family of >>> the girl will target me after the marriage due to my eyes problem.. >>> Please suggest me what should I do, as I am in difficult situation. >>> >>> >>> >>> >>> Search for old postings at: >>> http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ >>> >>> To unsubscribe send a message to >>> accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in >>> with the subject unsubscribe. >>> >>> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, >>> please visit the list home page at >>> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in >>> >>> >>> Disclaimer: >>> 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking of >>> the person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its > veracity; >>> >>> 2. 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