Raise your differently abled child just how you woul raise his/her other siblings!!! This is the first thing I would recommend to any of the new parents. We don't keep telling our sighted children about what they have and what they don't (especially at a young age of 2 or 4). Similarly no need of telling the VI child about what he/she has and what is not there. Any special conversation around the topic will make it unnecessarily important. It's just that let the child grow and adapt to the atmosphere around her. Just provide assistive devices wherever needed. Let the child adapt to them very naturally and relish her childhood just like any other child. I did the same with my daughter. In fact until the age of 7-8, I guess she was not much aware of her disability. she would think that the world was like that only, with different kinds of people where all people are blessed with some talent and some deficiencies. (Yes, I had always told her that God has not given everything to a single person). After a certain age I realised that she should now know the ground reality. she should know how things work in the sighted world, and how her world is a little different where she needs to work a little bit to make everything work for her. She should face the fact that there is a world out there where everything is made available from the perspective of sighted persons and we need to correct them 😃 to fit to our own needs! Slowly, I started revealing this to her with very short talks, never giving her disability any importance at all. I remember, she once told me that she would also ride vehicles like me. I did not react at that time. Just diverted her attention. After that whenever this talk came, I slowly inserted a few sentences to make her aware of the fact that she cannot drive ( in fact I told her she can, but not on roads😃). I never discussed these topics as a serious issue. So the result is, the disability never overpowered my daughter's mind. She grew up dreaming just like her sighted sibling, wanting everything in the world. Today I can proudly say that she has grown into a very positive adult! So my suggestion to these parents is: 1. Don't waste time anymore. Accept the fact and start providing you child with assistive devices. (I always wonder why in India we are still not working on giving cane to our child as early as the child takes the first step. But this needs detailed discussion on a different mail) 2. Don't worry too much about informing the child about the disability. 3. If the child is too curious to know and have any queries, DO answer them. But make it a point that the answers are more factual and technical. Just make the child aware of the facts and talk as if it is not a big deal. 4. Last but very important. DO NOT BE OVER PROTECTIVE!! And yes, not all children are alike. What works for one might not work for other. We just need to try and learn.
Wish the child a great future!!! Regards, Kanchan Jain. On Tue, Feb 26, 2019 at 3:28 PM Soni Jo <soni...@gmail.com> wrote: > Truly said Sir. > Over parenting makes the children too smart and too weak, both at the > same time. Though, my own 2 ad half year old is over parented. She is > such a clingy. > Now, about this small girl, she should not be protected ortreaed in > any special way. At least, that is what I think. I lost my eyesight > suddenly and completely almost at the same age. Nobody told me, or at > least, I do not remember. > I knew what was happening when my parents took me to doctors and > operated on my eyes. Only sad thing was the needles and operation. > Oherwise, I had more o less fine childhood. I ran around on the road, > nobody look out for me that I will be ran over, smiles. > Enough of me, what I feel is, she should be treated as her other > sibblings, except or reading and writing. She should be taught braille > and other ways to read and write. Otherwise, she is fine.. The parents > should answer all her questions regarding her eyesight. They should > not be over protective. Childhood is bliss. > Thank you > > > > On 2/25/19, turab chimthanawala <turab...@gmail.com> wrote: > > Hi all, > > Today while leaving from the BMC canteen after lunch, I was stopped by > > an old lady. Her grand daughter about 4 has no sight in 1 eye from > > birth. Per the lady, the baby has considerable sight in the other eye. > > The lady was concerned that she and her children have not yet been > > able to communicate with the baby girl about her disability. They have > > been apprehensive of admitting to a school as also allow her to run > > and play with other kids. > > This has caused a major road block as the kid as also relatives and > > people around are confused at their strange behaviour. > > Eagerly await inputs on > > 1. How to sensitise the kid about her disability. > > 2. The way forward. > > (They have consulted opthamologists about plausible treatment, to no > > avail and now are interested in rehab) > > Thanking you > > Best > > Turab > > > > > > Search for old postings at: > > http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ > > > > To unsubscribe send a message to > > accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in > > with the subject unsubscribe. > > > > To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, > please > > visit the list home page at > > > http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in > > > > > > Disclaimer: > > 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking of > the > > person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its veracity; > > > > 2. AI cannot be held liable for any commission/omission based on the > mails > > sent through this mailing list.. > > > > > > > Search for old postings at: > http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ > > To unsubscribe send a message to > accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in > with the subject unsubscribe. > > To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, > please visit the list home page at > http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in > > > Disclaimer: > 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking of > the person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its veracity; > > 2. AI cannot be held liable for any commission/omission based on the mails > sent through this mailing list.. > > Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ To unsubscribe send a message to accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in Disclaimer: 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking of the person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its veracity; 2. AI cannot be held liable for any commission/omission based on the mails sent through this mailing list..
