Dear Prashant, Lovely to see you share your views! How true! Thank you for popping up! Please will you consider being with us on 3rd August for the special Fusion meet at IIC? I wish to have you and Veena share some practicle facts there. Trying to get loads of non disabled people there too, to get the socializing factor going! It is wonderful to say that girls are more open and accomodating, but there are some wonderful visually impaired men as well who have done what you have! And I know they are mostly happy because of their atitudes and not because of their disabiity. Warmly Preeti
Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -----Original Message----- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Prashant Verma Sent: Wednesday, July 02, 2014 9:22 PM To: accessindia@accessindia. in Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners This discussion has made interesting reading. Knowing that writing anything on this could attract all types of comments, still I am putting down my views. Few people are stating the current situation while few are talking more about what should be the ideal scenario. The only complaint I have with many visually impaired is that they are not willing to marry any visually impaired at all. If they consider themselves useful and productive then they should be ready to accept a visually impaired partner. My understanding is that those who have not been able to master their disability due to various factors desire sighted partners. Some of these factors may be beyond their control. Economic status, upbringing, social pressure etc. are few of the factors. I think the possibility of having visually impaired children is one of the root cause of this desire. It is however not openly accepted. Parents also want someone sighted who can look after their son/daughter after them. What matters is compatibility and understanding. If we get a non-disabled partner then it may help solve few practical problems but then a visually impaired partner also takes care of many other matters. When looking for partners, one should have an open mind. Disability like caste, religion etc should be a secondary consideration. I see so many young talented and well settled visually impaired girls all around here but visually impaired boys even though they are passing the marriageable age are not ready to accept visually impaird partners. Finally they have to make comprimises. Girls sighted or disabled are generally seen to be more open minded and accommodating. It will indeed be great if visually impaired socialize more in the non-disabled community. It will enhance their personality and at the same time will increase chances of finding partners. I am partially sighted and married to a totally blind woman. -----Original Message----- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of ishita kapoor Sent: 02 July 2014 14:10 To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners I have found the argument of bhavani sir more realistic. Preety madam, if your aim is just to motivate us then your points are valid. I have 40 percent vision. And if I lose it no sighted person will even think to marry me even in dream unless he has social or economical problems. In that case a guy will marry me if he won't get proper match rather any girl in able bodied world, Or if I can offer him lots of money if he is poor Or I have nice job and he has no earning capacity. Otherwise no sighted person will marry me just for the sake of charity. And I don't have any bitter feeling for this belief. Because everyone has right to choose a life partner who is equal in all aspects I can't marry with the guy who doesn't have both arms and both legs. The same way I shouldn't expect such charity from any able bodied man. And yes I won't get promotion if I ask my boss to touch his clothes by saying: sir log kafi tariff kar rahe hai chalo mai bhi chhoo ke dekhu to tariff kar saku. I don't have much experience but still I would like to advice all youngsters that please don't do this. Don't ask anyone that: sir ya madam mai apke kapde dekhna chahta hun ya chahti hun. On 7/2/14, Preeti Monga <preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in> wrote: > You are very right! > Preeti > > Preeti Monga > Director > > > > Mobile: +91 9871701646 > Landline: 011 22781446 > E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in > Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our > Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training > -Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting - > Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including > demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive > Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. > > We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete > customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. > > > > -----Original Message----- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On > Behalf Of Zoher Kheriwala > Sent: Wednesday, July 02, 2014 11:44 AM > To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues > concerning the disabled. > Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are > normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners > > In the world we cannot expect every sighted person to get married to a > blind person, even we cannot expect every blind person to get married > to a blind person. Some of us might have rejected the proposal of > sighted person not because of he or she is sighted but many reasons > other vice. Or if we are rejected by sighted person, it might not be > related to our blindness. > Let me have the courage to make the statement, Many of we blind people > have the habit to relate our rejection (not only in marriages but also > in jobs and other sectors) to our blindness, but I am sure that if we > are appealing to the required party then our blindness should not be > of great concern. Yes having some doubt about our work efficiency is > quite natural in the case of sighted partner, this may not be the case > if we are engaged with blind partner. This is the time when we have to > show our ability (not only through talking but also through working). > Marrying to a sighted person or vice versa cannot guaranty of > successful married life. It has very little to do with our blindness. > I have married to a blind girl, We have not accepted each other > because we are blind, blindness is just is a coincidence. Let me put > in other words, My life partner happends to be a person with > blindness. > When we are in a hunt of life partner, we cannot over estimate the > ability of sighted person and we should not under estimate the ability > of blind partner. > > > On 7/2/14, Shadab Husain <shadab...@gmail.com> wrote: >> Hey Bhawani bhai, nice quotes! The key point is that there has to be >> some "self-interest" for both the parties otherwise the friendship >> will end. A person with financial poverty and emotional richness can >> provide emotional support to the emotionally poor but financially >> rich one and thus can be equal in status. Can we apply it on a blind >> marrying a sighted? Disagree with it, but I won't - especially after >> seeing so many examples on Access India. >> >> -----Original Message----- >> From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On > Behalf >> Of bhawani shankar verma >> Sent: 02 July 2014 07:13 >> To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and >> issuesconcerning the disabled. >> Subject: Re: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are >> normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners >> >> "Never make friends with people who are above or below you in status. >> Such >> friendships will never give you any happiness." >> - Chanakya >> >> "There is some self-interest behind every friendship. There is no >> friendship without self-interests. This is a bitter truth." >> - Chanakya >> >> both quotations should also be applied regarding partnership. >> marriage is > a >> social partnership between to parties where they have joined each >> other to satisfy their physical and emotional desires. >> >> ----- Original Message ----- >> From: "aditi shah" <shahaditi1...@gmail.com> >> To: "accessindia" <accessindia@accessindia.org.in> >> Sent: Tuesday, July 01, 2014 6:24 PM >> Subject: [AI] . Re: my quriyocity are >> normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners >> >> >>> Hi there everyone, >>> Have been reading this discussion since a few days, so felt like >>> expressing my views as well. >>> >>> We are all humans blind or not, and we have our own set of skills. >>> There might be areas we are extremely good at or there might be >>> areas we cannot do much, in case of us blind it may be because of >>> our disability whereas incase of sighted it might be due to other reasons. >>> According to me, a happy married life demands a set of some basic >>> skills, like understanding, cooking, up bringing of kids, earning, >>> socializing, etc. >>> Again, these basic requirements differ depending on what kind of a >>> lifestyle one has. >>> So, in my view, it does not really matter whether we are marrying a >>> sighted or a blind, what matters is whether our's and our partner's >>> skills can meet those basic requirements or not. >>> Considering this, I disagree from the belief that if a blind has to >>> marry a sighted, he has to make compromises like marrying someone >>> economically or intellectually weaker than us. >>> If a blind who is earning well or is from a well-to-do family or may >>> be is extremely qualified marries a sighted from a weaker economic >>> background or qualification, it is not a compromise as far as both >>> partners together possess the required skills. >>> Even if a blind is marrying a blind, and both of them can manage to >>> do the required things, may be in ways different than the normal >>> world, they can indeed have a successful married life. >>> >>> So, it is not about being blind or sighted, it is always about >>> finding that someone such that with understanding, you can both >>> match up for each other's shortcomings. >>> Life partners are like two pieces of a puzzle, one has to find the >>> other half that fits perfectly, lest we got to spend our entire life >>> filling the gaps. >>> >>> Regards, >>> aditi >>> >>> >>> >>> Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing >>> accessibility of mobile phones / Tabs on: >>> http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_a >>> cc >>> essindia.org.in >>> >>> >>> Search for old postings at: >>> http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ >>> >>> To unsubscribe send a message to >>> accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in >>> with the subject unsubscribe. >>> >>> To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other >>> changes, please visit the list home page at >>> http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.o >>> rg >>> .in >>> >>> >>> Disclaimer: >>> 1. 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