Hi Momy (HELLO MR MAHANTA):
I was disappointed to read your note on the disappointments of your
own (YOU SHOULD BE AND EVERYONE ELSE BECAUSE YOU COULDN'T APPRAISE AN
YOUTH'S OPINION).
Allow me to share a little observation of mine, with the hope that
you will take a moment of your precious time to ponder(I ALWAYS HAVE TIME
FOR ANY CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM AS ITS ONE OF THE REASONS BEHIND MY
DEVELOPMENT):
Expectations is the mother of all disappointments!" (WELL IF YOU ASK
ME...EXPECTATION IS THE MOTHER OF ACHIEVEMENT)..... Is it catchy or
what? (ITS DEGRADING THE TERM FOR ME SO NOT CATCHY AT ALL SIR) Remember you
heard it here first :-)( I NEVER HEARD OF IT AND EVEN IF I DID, I WOULDN'T
MAKE SENSE OF IT BECAUSE THESE PROVERBS ARE OUTCOME OF SOMEONE'S EXPERIENCE
NOT MINE).
The point is that you had expectations of assamnetters (NEVER DID, THATS
YOUR PRESSUMPTION); does not matter if they are realistic, meaningful,
useful, or otherwise(ANY INTELLIGENT BEING WOULD AGREE THAT TAKING AN
ACTION TO HELP SOMEONE ISN'T UNREALISTIC, NON MEANINGFULL OR USELESS). And
since those were not met (TRUE), you are leaving the forum (LEAVING THE
FORUM BECAUSE, I WOULD RATHER INVEST TIME IN ACTIONS THAN DISCUSSIONS WHICH
LEADS ME NOWHERE BUT RESULTS IN RESENTMENT TOWARDS DIFFERENT PEOPLE OR GOVT
IN THE END), in a huff (WELLCOME TO THE 21st CENTURY, IF YOU NEED SOMETHING
DONE THAN DO IT NOW),
waving your own virtues(CAUSE I BELIEVE IN THEM UNLIKE MOST OF YOU),
imagined or real(ABSOLUTELY REAL AND SO I AM ABLE TO PUT THEM INTO ACTIONS),
for others to see and go (ACTUALLY TO IRK MINDS LIKE YOU...THE POSITIVE
OUTCOME OF MY MAIL IS THAT SOME PEOPLE HAVE MAILED ME IN PERSON OFFERING
HELP TO BUILD A SITE...BUT YOU AGAIN TOOK TIME TO WRITE ME A PAGE FULL OF
YOUR OPINION ABOUT ME AND WANTING A DEBATE OUT OF IT) ( --Wow! What a young
lady of action she is (SURE I AM, ELSE I WOULDN'T HAVE THE CONFIDENCE TO
POINT AT THE "WORDS ONLY" GROUP).
But I understand ( I SERIOUSLY HOPE YOU DO). Most do(AGAIN I CAN HOPE THAT
THEY DO). We have seen them all here (THIS COULD ONLY MEAN TO ME THAT YOU
HAVE BEEN POSTING YOUR OPINIONS ON THIS SITE SINCE IT FIRST STARTED). Good
news (NOT REALLY CAUSE YOU ARE WASTING YOUR TIME)
however is that you are young (JUST 25, LOT OF EXPECTATIONS YET), and
hopefully still open to learning (I WOULDN'T BE DEVELOPING IF I WASNT OPEN
TO LEARNING)
new tricks unlike some old us old dogs (DONOT EVER HUMILIATE YOURSELF...NO
ONE CALLS YOU THAT , I AM SURE) . And it is NOT a beauty contest (I DO
UNDERSTAND SIR, SEEKING HELP FROM YOU GUYS TO HELP OTHERS ISN'T A THOUGHT
OF A BEAUTY ONLY...BEAUTY+BRAINS) here -- to prove what a hot-s--t one is
or not (NOT TRYING TO PROVE ANYTHING..DO READ MY MAIL ONCE MORE) :-).
New tricks? (TRICKS???THOUGHT I WAS STRAIGHT FORWARD) Indeed. You have
shown how naive(WITH ALL DUE RESPECT SIR, INSPITE OF YOUR AGE YOU HAVE NO
RIGHT TO USE "SUCH" WORDS AGAINST ME) you are about some of your
assumptions (ASSUMPTIONS GET YOU STARTED WITH ANY PROBLEM), beliefs ( CAUSE
I BELEIVE IN THEM) and expectations(TO BE ABLE TO ACHIEVE, I NEED TO
EXPECT), from the few notes you posted here(FEW BUT SUBSTANTIAL). I won't
go into details now(YOU ARE ALWAYS WELCOME IF YOU WANT TO), but if you
would like for me to, I will be pleased to take them up for discussion at a
later time.(WHY PRIVATE..IT STARTED IN A PUBLIC FORUM, KEEP IT THAT WAY)>
But that is nothing new (YOUR OPINION AGAIN SIR). You are not alone in your
naivete (I WOULD BE GLAD IF YOU ARE NOT ONE OF MY KIND THAN). We have all
been there(HAVE YOU??NOT REALLY OR ELSE YOU WON'T BE STILL A MEMBER OF THE
FORUM). Again good news is that we can shed them(NO INTENSIONS OF SHEDDING
MY QUALITIES). How? Yes, by talking(TALK AND TALK AND TALK SO THAT BY THE
TIME I AM OF YOUR AGE, I WILL SHARE MY OPINION WITH A YOUNGER MEMBER IN THE
EXACT SAME WAY AS YOU HAVE DONE). By
debating, discussing and deliberating and by paying attention(I DON'T HAVE
TIME FOR PROLONGED DISCUSSIONS OR DEBATES).
You may ask: But isn't that a waste of time? Aren't you guys just blowing
air, accomplishing NOTHING? (THERE YOU GO..SEE YOU FINALLY KNOW ME BETTER)
Well, it would be, IF that is ALL we do (YOU WOULD KNOW BETTER).
See Momy, discussing and debating the issues we do, is NOT mutually
exclusive of doing something concrete(WHICH I QUITE WELL UNDERSTOOD EVEN
BEFORE YOU MENTIONED).
That is what you fail to recognize(MAYBE, THANK U FOR TAKING THE EFFORT TO
MAKE ME REALISE). Again, no harm done. You have a lot of time to learn(I
AGREE WITH YOU THERE).
Many netters do many things--for their own betterment and for others' too.
Not all talk of their actions or contributions. And besides, there is
ALWAYS a whole lot more to the persona of these people than what their
posts in assamnet may indicate. It will do you good to be aware of
that(PLEASE MAKE ME AWARE OF WHAT YOU HAVE DONE SO FAR AS YOU CLAIM TO BE
OLD ..YOU HAVE HAD YOUR WHOLE LIFE AHEAD).
What is important to recognize however, is that those who know better, or
are expected to know better--people like yourselves, cannot and must not
remain smug in your own righteousness, your self-image of a person of
action, like you assert(WELL THAN POINT ME TOWARDS THE RIGHT DIRECTION,
DONT ASK ME TO ARGUE, DEBATE AND DISCUSS). For if you do, you will be NO
DIFFERENT from those who you perceive, albeit on scant and superficial
evidence of assamnet posts, to be mere hot-air blowers, or having little to
contribute towards what YOU consider meaningful. What is meaningful can
come in many, many forms(JUST AN EXAMPLE FROM YOU IS WHAT I AM REQUESTING
FOR..BESIDES I CLEARLY MENTIONED TWO CATEGORIES IN MY CONCLUDING
LINE..PLEASE READ IT).
Another thing is that, we know, often a new member would leave in a huff,
because netters' criticisms/comments hurt their sense of what they hold
dear(I BELEIVE IN MYSELF AND SOME INDIVIDUAL WHO IS VIRTUALLY KNOW TO ME
JUST CANT HURT ME WITH WORDS..IT WILL TAKE YOU LOT MORE): Often myths
associated with their realities or their beliefs (AGAIN FIRM BELEIEFS). And
being unable or unwilling to articulate a defense of their own values and
views, they would cite others' 'egos' or pro-this or anti-that or
full-of-hot-air-ness(NOT ME...BUT YOUR MAIL COULD BE A CLASSIC EXAMPLE).
This is the quintessential "Urohi-gosor-wrtw-onyo-korbat" syndrome(TAR MANE
NUBUJILU). There is only one cure for it: SPEAK UP, defend what you
believe(I ALWAYS DO CAUSE I HAVE NO FEAR OR SECOND THOUGHTS..I AM CONFIDENT
AND ALWAYS SPEAK OF THINGS I CAN DEFEND IF NECESSARY). You will be
surprised, that you CAN educate others(I KNOW THAT). And we will all be the
better for it.
Gave you an earful, didn't I :-)?(I CAN ABSORB MORE BUT DONT'T MAKE IT A
HABBIT)
Take care(U TOO), and whether you return to assamnet or not,(I WON'T AFTER
TODAY) all the best to you and yours(AND TO YOU SIR).
cm(MOMY)
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