Re: girls and adolt women
Hey guys, let's be gentle. Kamochek states he is fifteen. This is a teachable moment. Let's not make it harder than it already is.
Kamochek, girls and women are people who are complicated combinations of many things, of the story of their lives, of the people they grew up with, of the place they live and of their physical bodies. There's nothing wrong with being attracted to particular types of women or girls; we are attracted to what we're attracted to and there is no shame in this.
But please understand that many women have been treated badly by men who have seen them as nothing more than bodies for their pleasure. There is so much more to love than what you're talking about.
I am madly in love with the woman of my dreams, who happens to be my wife. I said she happens to be, but really I meant that she and I have done a lot of work to make our relationship as nearly perfect as is possible. We started dating a week after we met at a friend's birthday party. I flirted with her shamelessly, though we began by discussing the horrors of divorce, which I'd just recently been through and she was in the midst of. A week later, we were at a second party, and we kind of ignored everyone else to talk to one another and begin being physically close. I was able to comfort her as she went through some rather horrific experiences with her ex, including attempted rape. I could make her laugh. She made my world infinitely better with her laughter, with her kindness, and yes, with the fire of the best sex either of us had ever had.
The sex was fantastic. It was fantastic because we utterly gave ourselves to one another, trusted one another, found strength and peace and home in one another's company. With that as a foundation, we were able to laugh together when the world conspired to be hard on us. We were abl e to try new things, take risks and make and keep promises that made both of us grow into better people.
That was over ten years ago. We are in our forties. My wife's body is aging in ways that would not make her seem beautiful to some people who have fixed ideas of what beauty is. To me, she is the most beautiful person, let alone woman I have ever known and will ever know. And that will be true if we live to be a hundred, if health problems make sex harder. Her skin lights my nerve endings from head to toe with the merest touch. Her kiss makes a terrible day doable. Hearing her voice when she calls me at work just to say hi makes me smile. I love sitting down with her and planning stupidly boring things, like how to spend our money for the next three months, and which house improvement to save up for. I can't imagine raising our children without her. I know that if she promises a thing, it will happen.&nbs p; I know that if I tell her something is important to me, she will honor it. I know that she can even flirt with another man, but she's coming home with me.
I know these things, because they are also true for me, and we've shown each other the truth of them time and time again. We've been there through a miscarriage, through the births of two boys, through moving across the country, through dealing with her daughters from her previous marriage and their various problems, through unemployment and poverty and illness. This is the woman I will die with or bury, however that turns out.
You asked what love is? That is love my young friend. It is that gift I give her every day, and that she gives me of all of myself, the best and the worst, knowing that it is enough. That is love. It has lust as part of it. It began with a crush.
And so, if my beloved does not have the most beautiful singing voice, (I 've dated professional singers) or the most elegant body, (I dated a dancer too), still her voice thrills me and comforts me and brings tears to my eyes when she sings a lullaby to help settle a troubled child. Still, her body sets mine on fire when she wraps her arms around me and kisses me. I could wish for no more beautiful, or accomplished, or loving a woman than the one I happened to meet at my friend's birthday party.
So, when you think about the woman you'd like to be close to, or the girl, think about how she makes you feel, how she makes you laugh, what she would do if you were crying, what you would do for her. These are so very much more important than any detail of body shape or the sound of her voice. Please think about this, you can be one of the good guys, or you can be one of those boys/men who make the rest of us all look bad. You can be happy or you can always be unsatisfied, looking for perfection you'll neve r find. And my, what you'd miss in the meantime.
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