Re: what do you guys regret
Not too much regret in my childhood, except perhaps how bad of a pupil I was at piano lessons, and especially how easily I would get angry. I feel like I should try to find back my piano teacher from the time, on Facebook or what not, and apologize to her.
Also, like @5, I could get disappointed when receiving clothes during Christmas or my birthday but it was relatively brief at least.
However:
@7: I experienced a story that almost ended like yours and may in fact still do, and it's quite a part of why my life changed quite a bit recently. It was with a girl I encountered like 6 years ago, and eventually I realised how muchI loved her and in fact still do. Thing is I didn't know how to tell her, and more problematic was the fact that she lived more than a couple hundred killometers away from me, and I was not sure how to deal with that.
TO put things in perspective, I was still living by my father's until quite recently, and agreed with him that I had to find a goal, besides love, for moving far away. But when I would think about something, the question about how realistic it was kept coming on the table and again I was always kind of stuck. This happened for more than a year.
Meanwhile, I learn from a friend that the girl I was talking about fell in love with him, and I felt it was deserved as I thought that he delt better with things overall. It didn't last for long though for some reason, but at that point I felt like moving on anyway.
It was in September 2019, when I started to use Facebook more seriously and realised how she had a more fulfilling life than mine, that my love for her suddenly resurfaced. Oh god did it feel bad at first. At night, I wouldn't necessary dream or do nightmares, yet I would easily wake up in a stream of regret, eyes filled with tears like a child out of a bad dream and a nauseous waight on my chest as if I was waking up from anesthesia.
All in all, I decided I would study musicology near where she lives, no matter how realistic it may feel, and that's what I'm doing, it's a fine experience so far. Today is exactly one year since I told her my feelings, and though she said she wasn't thinking too much about such things at the time, at least I know that even if it doesn't work between us, the scenario won't be the exact same as last time, and at least a bit easier to bear. I still haven't seen her in person since I moved, though it's clear that both the Covid and the fact we are focusing on our studies don't help.
So you get it, I still kind of regret to this day not telling her earlier, and spending so much time by my father's wondering what to do. If I didn't have such regrets I wouldn't have felt so bad when falling in love with her again.
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