Mbak Hilda, aku cari2 di website ayahbunda dan lainnya, gak ada artikel yang mendukung. Artikel yang kudapat dari webiste babycenter ini tentang bagaimana cara menghentikan anak memukul dan menggigit ibunya. Kalo dari yang aku baca mengenai Salma, terhadap mbak Hilda dia juga bersikap demikian kan ? Mungkin kalo mbak bisa hentikan tabiat itu terhadap mbak, Salma akan belajar untuk bersikap sama terhadap teman2nya.
Inti dari artikel ini, anak diajar untuk mengetahui apa yang boleh dan tidak boleh dilakukan, dengan cara "hukuman" positif yaitu memberi waktu "time out". Aku sendiri pernah coba kasih Danis time out selama 2 menit, dan ternyata maksud hati mau menerapkan sistem "hukuman" positif, ternyata malah berguna banget untuk nenangin dia yang lagi marah. Jadi kalo sekarang dia melakukan sesuatu yang berbahaya, atau sesuatu yang perlu aku larang, dan dia marah karena laranganku itu, setelah beberapa waktu ditenangkan gak bisa, aku selalu nawarin,"Danis mau sendirian dulu? Mama tinggalin ya dua menit.....". Biasanya aku tinggalin dia dikamar, dia bobo di kasur sambil meluk bantalnya. Pertama kali sih aku intip2 dari luar karena takut juga kalo dia kenapa2. Tapi ternyata alhamdulillah manjur. Tapi aku belom pernah coba untuk masalah seperti Salma karena Danis gak pernah mukul atau gigit temannya. Selamat mencoba.... Regards, Dini-mamanya Danisha Moderator Ayahbunda-Online ========================================================================= Sumber: www.babycentre.co.uk/expert/542026.html How can I stop him kicking and biting? Expert: Penney Hames [See Biography] Question: My two year old has started to kick and bite. How can I stop him? Penney Hames: Many two and three year olds go through an aggressive phase. But with love and firmness you can show them how to behave. Toddlers hit and bite, kick and punch because it is a sure fire way to get your attention, something your children crave. You need to show them that it doesn't work. As soon as he hits out (don't wait) tell him that because he has hit or bitten he must now sit in 'time out' for two minutes (use a minute for each year of his life). Say this as calmly as you can and then don't say anything else. Next, lead him firmly but kindly to a designated chair (preferably one from which his feet can neither touch the floor nor kick the walls) and leave him to sit. Do not send him to his room or to the bottom step. You need to keep an eye on him, and he needs as few distractions as possible. A chair in the kitchen is great. If he gets up, take him back immediately. Tell him that the time out will only begin when he is sitting. Put your hand on his leg to encourage him to stay. Do not let him off if he says he's sorry, he needs to sit still first. Don't talk to him during his time out or allow any one else to either. Use the two minutes to calm yourself down. When the time is up, ask him to apologise and then forgive and forget. Eventually your toddler will get the message. Your toddler is learning what he can and cannot do. With time out and your positive and loving attention whenever he is playing well, he won't need to go on hitting and biting for long. ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> <font face=arial size=-1><a href="http://us.ard.yahoo.com/SIG=12hf4tl05/M=320369.6903864.7846594.2920218/D=groups/S=1705038064:TM/Y=YAHOO/EXP=1123832873/A=2896110/R=0/SIG=1107idj9u/*http://www.thanksandgiving.com ">Help save the life of a child. Support St. Jude Children¿s Research Hospital</a>.</font> --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> Subscribe: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Unsubscribe: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Info Belanja si Kecil: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Ayahbunda-Online/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
