I can't imagine anything more frightening than feeling so hopeless that it
is preferable to end it than to go on. Maybe I find it so frightening
because I've peeked over that brink before (no, I never tried it, but more
than once it was a close decision).
Just keep in mind (and remind the family) that the feelings that lead to
suicide are overwhelming. The negative emotion is so strong that it makes
you ignore all the good things in life. That doesn't mean they aren't
there. From what you say, I'm sure he didn't commit suicide because you
weren't a good enough friend, or he didn't love his wife and kids. Remember
that.
I've worked hard at learning to find the good things in life. I've worked
hard at reminding myself of the people I love and them of the fact that I
love them. If anyone else out there is nearing the edge, reach out to your
friends, loved ones, therapist, hotline, me, whatever. I've never been so
alone that there wasn't someone to pull me back, and if you really think
about it, you aren't either.
--Ben Doom
Programmer & General Lackey
Moonbow Software
: -----Original Message-----
: From: Douglas Brown [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]]
: Sent: Friday, October 11, 2002 12:32 PM
: To: CF-Community
: Subject: Best friend committed suicide
:
:
: Well, this is a bad day for me, just got news that my best friend comitted
: suicide his name was Kerry Keener and he had posted to the list a
: couple of
: times seeking work.. He was CF Developer that I worked with in
: California and
: he had moved to Texas with his family. I guess he got layed off
: from his job
: and the stress of money etc..etc.. was to much for him to bare. He leaves
: behind a wife and 2 children and another child from a previous
: marriage. He
: shot himself in the head. I just want to say that no matter what the
: circumstance is, that suicide is never the solution. I had told a
: friend of
: mine once that I felt trapped by my circumstaces, and he told me
: that I was
: not trapped, but that I had just not found the door. I thought that was an
: excellent way of putting things into perspective and that if people just
: would think like that, it would make the trials in life easier to handle.
: Please say a few prayers for his family, as I am sure they would
: appreciate
: it.
:
:
:
:
: Douglas Brown
: Email: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
:
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