I feel for ya both, Ben. I'm in your son's position and my dad is in yours. I finally ended up taking a job at a place I worked before my glory days with CF. It's not what I would like to be doing, but it helps pay some of the bills, keeps me working with computers, and gives me something to do.
Like others have said, I would suggest he get a job doing whatever he can. Something food related would be better, obviously, but whatever it takes, ya know? I wouldn't worry about the "not getting along to well" part. He'll probably come around in a few years like I did with my dad. It's one of those things that just happens when sons get older .. as long as they don't totaly hate their dads to begin with. Um. You know what I'm trying to say :) BTW, speaking of your son being a chef, what kind of knives does he use? P.T. ----- Original Message ----- From: "Ben Braver" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: "CF-Community" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Friday, February 21, 2003 12:05 PM Subject: Seeking a little sympathy > hi gang, > > Another real bummer with the 22-year-old son. > > He's been working as a banquet cook and fills in at the pantry station in > the line restaurant sometimes. > It's a "boutique hotel" with a huge, deluxe fitness club attached. > The restaurant serves the hotel, the club, and hopefully the general public. > But the sales and marketing person (who just got fired) did a lousy job of > publicizing it to the community. > Between that and the economy, business has been lousy. > Most of the restaurant staff have had their hours cut. > Yesterday, my son found out he's being laid off (via a voice mail message). > > So, it's gone from bad (no roommate and not enough hours to make ends > meet), to worse (no job). > This is the third horse he's had shot out from under him since getting out > of the cooking school. > > He's pretty bummed out. > So am I - his moving home would create a virtual (or real) war zone. > And subsidizing him until he gets up to speed on a new job (or jobs) and a > roommate would be hard financially, especially when we're finally getting a > handle on the budjet. > <heavy sigh> > > My wife went over to "just be there" last night. > (He only wanted "Mom" there.) > She suggested he get real and go for a job at Starbucks or something just > to make rent. > > Yes, I know the economy is rough right now. > But I cringe at the idea of financing an education at the California > Culinary Academy for him to end up at Starbucks. > > I think the problem may be that he doesn't have fast enough knife and > "production" skills to keep up with the chefs' expectations - he loves food > and cooking, but isn't the most coordinated person. (You should see his > handwriting!) And he doesn't have the "fire" (drive) and confidence to > charge into the typical line kitchen and take it by storm. (Pardon the > mixed metaphors.) > > Yeah, I'm sure it will work out for him and us. > Just feeling a little bummed and looking for some kind words from a bunch > of great people. > > Have a nice weekend, everyone. > > -Ben ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?forumid=5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?method=subscribe&forumid=5 Get the mailserver that powers this list at http://www.coolfusion.com Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
