When my wife and I got married a little over 5 years ago we were given a book by my grandmother. It contained the notes from the Marriage Enrichment class that she and my late grandfather taught for the better part of two decades at their local Baptist church. I was flipping through it today and came across the following few pages that I thought I'd share as "food for thought". I found while reading it that I applied it to all of my debates and arguments, even those I have online.
Some of them are very relationship oriented but others really do fit for any aspect of live. Happy 4th and Enjoy! Hatton ------------------------- Respectfully Disagreeing There is nothing like a good argument to clear the air. But whether the fight is between friends, spouses or parents and children, experts say there are rules to keep the proceedings respectful and create opportunities for greater honesty and understanding. - Stick to a single issue and avoid past grievances. If you're bickering about the family deficit, don't dredge up distracting complaints about in-laws or vacation plans. - No name-calling. It will only make the argument vindictive. - Be honest. Say what's on your mind and get it over with. - Listen. Let the other person have his/her say. Then have yours. - Don't nag or battle in public. Respect others and yourself. - Never hit. Nothing justifies violence. - Don't threaten to end the relationship. It's usually unrealistic. - Don't walk out in the middle of a fight. Nothing is solved. - Apologise when wrong. - Compromise. Show respect for the other person's feelings by meeting them halfway. You won't get bery far trying to change people. - Don't hold a grudge. Learn to live with whatever resolution you both agree to. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~| Archives: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?forumid=5 Subscription: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/index.cfm?method=subscribe&forumid=5 This list and all House of Fusion resources hosted by CFHosting.com. The place for dependable ColdFusion Hosting. http://www.cfhosting.com Unsubscribe: http://www.houseoffusion.com/cf_lists/unsubscribe.cfm?user=89.70.5
