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From: Jacob
To: CF-Community
Sent: Monday, January 26, 2004 2:20 PM
Subject: dating/relationship question... (LONG)
When she says that she wants to '"be friends," does that mean that there is
no more hope? Here is what happened.
I was going out with the wonderful lady for about a month and a half. After
each date, we could tell that we were into each other. Except for the first
date, every date ending in a long kisses good bye. When we were together, I
could tell she was enjoying herself. During the month and a half, she went
away on vacation for a week and called me back the day she came home. So,
it looked like she was interested.
Last weekend, we had three dates back, to back, to back. A cooked her
dinner at home and we watched DVDs, second was a fire at the beach, and the
third was a comedy show and a relaxing evening in a hot tub. But, after
that last date, there was no long kissing session after the date, just a
peck on the lips. When I called her two days later I asked her out to
dinner on Thursday, and said "call me later and if I fell like it, maybe."
With that and the peck on the lips, I though something was wrong. Well, I
called her Thursday and asked her out and she said yes. She also said that
she had something to tell me.
After dinner, she told me that she spent the last few days thinking about
us and looking deep inside of her to find the chemistry, but there was none
there. She wanted to find it. She told me that I was a very nice guy, great
looking, and that nobody has ever treated her like a princess before, which
I did. She almost started to cry and asked me to give her a call so we can
hang out again, because she would love that. And she then said that she
wanted to "Be Friends." She said that she is still a wild person and likes
to be a little immature.
I know it was only a month and a half, but I really, really liked her. I
could tell that the chemistry was there, but it seemed like it died off. It
was weird that at first she was into me, then not longer. I was beginning
to think that I may have been too romantic and did too much, too soon
.Cooking dinner at her place, fires, strawberries with whip cream, hot tub
with music and candles, etc. (or another guy).
So, did I move too fast? I think so. She already knows what I can do for
her, romantically and affectionately, maybe I just needed to go slower and
have more fun times first.
I want to give it time. Just avoid contact with her for now and she what
happens. See is she calls or not. Do not want to make it sound like I am
desperate. I would like to be friends, on my level, and maybe I can
re-create the spark by doing something that she likes to do for fun. It
sounds like we wanted more fun and wild times. Give it a month and
hopefully we end up going out on another "date", having fun, and I can
maybe re-light that spark. After 8 years of looking and bad experiences
with exs, though she was the one.
On the other hand, I am not going to sit here and wait. Have to going
fishing again...
Yes.. for the first time, I thought I was in love... SUCKS!
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