Nancy- It sounds like you are grieving very much. Please know your emotions and behaviors are "normal" with grief. Most people have reactions to anniversaries (birthdays, day of death, holidays, etc.) What you are experiencing will ease with working through your emotions. Please feel free to cry and experience the pain of your loss. It is the only way it will become easier. As for your new little chi- be patient. It is very frustrating to get your hopes up to have a change in plans. I would suggest you call the breeder and work to find a middle ground. It sounds like she is trying to do what she feels best for the pup and the mother. Also- I hear a lot of self blame in your posts. It is not your fault Sami died. Life is precious, none of us get out of here alive. Whatever happened with Sami was not your fault. It hurts but please try to forgive yourself. Sami would be so sad to think you were berating yourself over him. He only wanted happiness for you.
Rylee and Frida On Thu, Oct 7, 2010 at 10:23 PM, Nancy Lucky <[email protected]>wrote: > > > Yes that is so true. Today is the 1st year anniversary of the loss of my > little Sami and it has been a tough day for me. Because my baby died in my > arms, I have not been comfortable leaving her with anyone since I have > gotten her. I have only left her maybe twice and its been only for a very > short time. Since I am considered by ADA as permanently disabled Abbey has > been able to become a registered service/companion dog. Tonight I had to go > to a retirement dinner for a lady that I worked with for over 20 years and I > left Abbey with my neighbor who Abbey loves. I was only gone 2 hours but > when I got home and she saw me you would of thought she won a million > dollars, she ran up to me and kissed and kissed me and she was so happy to > see her mommy. I don't think anyone loves me like she does. As you all know > I am getting Abbey's bological sister who was born on Aug 30 - she is a > singleton (only puppy) and is doing great, already using the potty pads. But > she has no one to play with, the breeder brought in one of her smaller > younger pups and Maggie wanted to play but the other Chi wanted nothing to > do with her. Linda, the breeder told me several weeks ago that I could have > Maggie at 8 weeks old. I have been marking the calendar and tonight when I > got home she said she changed her mind, as they do better being with their > moms longer so they can teach them things. Well I agree if there are others > in the pack but since she is the only one I do not know what the mother can > teach her. I am devestated as I have had so much sadness lately that I have > been so looking forward to getting her marking off the days. Plus since she > lives over two hours away I had to arrange for someone to drive me there and > my daughter could do it that day as its the weekend and she does not have > her day care kids. I am so upset and feel betrayed. When Maggie was born and > she contacted me she aslo said she would give me a GREAT deal. But it took > her for ever to tell me what the GREAT deal was. I thought since I paid > 850.00 for Abbey and they are from the same parents that it would be an > amount that is less than 850 but the deal was 1,000! I did not say anything > because I have fallen in love with her. But they are always saying how much > they are enjoying her and how much she loves them. I sent her 500.00 already > and now I am wondering what to do. I think that she should of not said that > to me and gotten my heart all excited and then change her mind. Does anyone > have any advice. I have been crying all day long, first because of missing > my little boy and now because of this. I do not know what to do? > Please hlep. > Love Nancy and Abbey > > > > --- On *Thu, 10/7/10, Deanna Corey <[email protected]>* wrote: > > > From: Deanna Corey <[email protected]> > Subject: Re: [Chihuahuas] I have a question? > To: [email protected] > Date: Thursday, October 7, 2010, 8:31 PM > > > > > YES!!!!!!! It is a given...CHIS LOVE THEIR MOMS!!!!!! Everyone else is in > their way!! > > *Waggin' Tails in The Dog Park,* > *Deanna > * > * and* > > * The Dog Park Pack: > Nugget, Shuai-Li, Bella, Mouse, Myrtle, Mable, Caleb and Maxine!!!* > > *and honorary non-dog members of The Dog Park: * > > *Stella-Macaw, Stanley-Amazon, Miles the cat* > > *www.joys4toys.com* > > > ------------------------------ > *From:* Brea Rae <[email protected]> > *To:* [email protected] > *Sent:* Thu, October 7, 2010 5:45:07 PM > *Subject:* [Chihuahuas] I have a question? > > > I was wondering if it was normal for chihuauas to be a kinda jealous? Like > when I am playing with my sisters dog or paying attention to him she's all > over me... We are pretty much in seperable anyway. I think it's cute but how > do I make sure it doesn't turn in to a bad thing! I mean I spoil her bit > with limits > > > > > > -- Rylee O'Neill Email: [email protected] <a href="http://pitapata.com/";><img src="http://pdgm.pitapata.com/N9lQm6.png"; width="200" height="80" border="0" alt="PitaPata Dog tickers" /></a>
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