Hii friends… some of u must b planning to go on leave n must b going to near n dear ones on this Diwali…. N its general tendency to carry some gifts or sweets for them…. Well why do we do that??? To see them Happy to see that smile n happiness on their face…
But do we only want to see happy ppl we r our near n dear… Don't we care for others?? But there is something which we all can do n it does not cost anything….We can give priceless gift to them… We can make someone day…. But How???
Simple by giving compliments….. Compliment is a "remark of praise." Its this simple…. We can actually make someones day by telling him/her…that u r looking good t'day….. or u look good thes days….. Or any compliment which will make them feel good…..It really works for anything n we feel happy n charged up full day after getting compliments….. J I m sure everyone must have observed this….
I think giving compliment is best way to cheer someone up… J As Compliments are one of the most extraordinary components of social life. If given right they create so much positive energy that they make things happen almost as if by magic. They ease the atmosphere around two people .
Once praiseworthy situations are noticed, the awareness needs to be spoken. In other words, the compliment needs to be put forth into the world in spoken form. We have to b vocal abt that change we noticed….We deliver praise. People benefit from being the objects of compliments, but we also benefit being givers of them. Recipients benefit from knowing that we notice and learning that we value them. So compliments are powerful in motivating continued efforts. People strive to do more of what brings praise from others. In addition, compliments amplify positivity; they not only deliver positive effects to others, those effects bounce back on us, ramping up the positive atmosphere we breath.
The art of the compliment is not only a powerful social skill; it is one of the most fundamental. You don't need to be an expert to do it well. You just need to be genuine. Compliments are in fact one of the finest tools for acquiring more social skills, because the returns are great and immediate.
Because compliments make the world a better place, everyone needs to learn how to compliment. Compliments on appearance are fabulous for making people feel good a helps put people at ease. Telling a colleague she looks fabulous is always good… J
But…Sadly, too many women discount compliments. Perhaps you've been in this situation yourself. Someone says, "Wow, you look great today." And you say, "oh, but I feel so fat (ugly) today." Or you get complimented on an outfit and you say, "Oh, this old thing, I've had it for years." Or someone says, "Hey, you gave a really good presentation." And you say, "oh, I just slapped some stuff together in five minutes." Such answers instantly suck the positivity out of the air and deflate the donor. They make the giver feel stupid for noticing and commenting on something so unworthy of praise. At the very least, they create social awkwardness.
There is only one way to receive a compliment—graciously, with a smile. Because the positive atmosphere created by a compliment, if we allow ourselves to inhale it, can be powerful enough to transform our feelings.
So friends…. This Diwali…let us give the gift of love….And compliments are little gifts of love. They are not asked for or demanded. They tell a person they are worthy of notice. They are powerful gifts. If compliments are a gift from a donor, their reception is equally a gift—a return gift to the giver. HAPPY DIWALI TO ALL..
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thanks and regards
Raj Gupta
M.S. Research Scholar,
Distributed and Object Systems Lab.,
Department of CS & E,
IIT Madras, Chennai - 600036,
9818223222
Email:
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"Three Things in life, Once gone never come back... Words, Opportuntity and Time"
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