We came back to my house and headed right for the shower immediately. We're
both letting it all hang out. I got out of the shower after she did, but
when I walked back into my room she was already dressed and on her way out
of the door, saying 'Bye-bye' as she left. I went back into the shower and
cried," a 27-year-old man tells Spa! (3/18).
It appears more Japanese women than ever are toying with guys, carrying
them to the brink and then suddenly pulling out before going all the way.
"Too many girls are prepared to have foreplay, but end it there," another
man moans. "They just don't understand how hard it is for a guy."
Perhaps it's because they realize how hard it is that the women are not
going all the way. But there're plenty of other reasons, too.
"Frankly speaking, foreplay is only a substitute for masturbation. I don't
need to have it inserted to climax. I do have urges, but I'm too
embarrassed about touching myself, so I use a guy for foreplay and then
call a stop when I'm satisfied," one woman tells Spa!
Another woman suggests her reasons for suddenly stopping could be for
fetishist reasons.
"Nothing gets me more excited than having an ugly guy nowhere near my ideal
type licking all over my body. That's more than enough," she says.
Women have even designed methods to guarantee they get foreplay and not a
guy who wants to go all the way.
"If I tell him that he'll get my venereal disease if he sticks it in, he
won't go near it," a 25-year-old woman says. "Of course, I don't have any
sort of venereal disease."
Some take even more radical steps.
"If I tell him I've got an illness, there goes any hope of oral. I just
stick a tampon in and say it's that time of the month. If there's something
in there already, they won't want to visit. And no guy has got the guts to
rip a tampon out," the 28-year-old trading company employee tells Spa!
More women refuse to go all the way because they want to taste their guys
in little doses, like a sommelier tasting wine. These women hold off until
they get the vintage they're looking for.
"First you have to check out his room. If it's a typically dirty bachelor
pad, I go straight home. But if it's done up to look like some gigolo's
lair I give him a miss, too," a 25-year-old woman says.
Some are in fact willing to go all the way, but end up refusing after
watching their partner perform a little.
"Nothing riles me more than a guy who'll notice I'm barely damp and try to
use spit instead of putting in a little bit more effort," a 25-year-old
woman says. "They can't make a fool of me that easily."
Sometimes the women just want their guys to be a little more forceful.
"We'll get around to the time to connect, but I have to tell him then that
he can't do it. It's not so much that I want to be seen as pure, but I
don't want to be seen as an easy lay, either. But the guy shouldn't give in
at those times," a 26-year-old woman says.
Refusing the guy a chance to go all the way can sometimes have practical
reasons, like the 26-year-old woman who likes to wear pricey lingerie
before the first time with a new partner.
"On the average female office workers wage, there's no way you could afford
to wear lace underwear every day," she moans to Spa! "Covering the weekends
alone is hard enough."
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