for the record here my solution
$unshare_mmdebstrap_extra_args = [
"*" => [ '--aptopt=Acquire::http { Proxy "http://..."; }',
'--aptopt=Acquire::https { Proxy "http://..."; }',
'--customize-hook=echo "export http_proxy=http://..." >
"$1"/etc/environment',
'--customize-hook=echo "export https_proxy=http://..." >
"$1"/etc/environment',
]
];
