One last thought after reviewing your recent community difficulties: my general feeling that this PMC is making things more complicated than it should, based on a vague belief that the Apache Software Foundation has tons of complex requirements and processes that need to be followed.
That's not the case - there are some rules and requirements, but AFAICS much fewer than the general perception here seems to be. The "what makes Apache projects different?" post [1] that I wrote a while ago tries to capture the key differences between Apache projects and just sharing a code repository. There's really not more to it than that - keeping things simple should help. -Bertrand [1] https://blogs.apache.org/comdev/entry/what_makes_apache_projects_different