>> Monte':
>> Nice to meet you.
>>
>> Of course, an oppressed person should suspect the oppressor who
>> suddenly changes his tune. But how am I the oppressor? What have
>> I done to deserve blame?
>> Al
>> [EMAIL PROTECTED]
>>
>
>Have you ever thought that overpopulation wouldn't be a problem if women
>would stop having so many kids?
>Have you ever thought (even for a moment) that it was the womans fault
>for not leaving her abusive husband?
>Have you ever dismissed a male-childs actions because 'boys will be boys'?
>Have you disregarded your mothers opinion because 'what could she
>possibly know about anything?'
>Have you ever looked at a woman and for a moment all you could see where
>the shape of her bosom, butt, or legs?
>Have you ever suddenly become wary because you saw a group of minorities
>walking toward you on the street?
>Have you ever tried to ignore a homeless person?
>Have you ever sought to restrict a womans actions because the thing she
>wanted to do was not "good" or "safe" for her?
>Have you told or laughed at jokes that are offensive to other people?
>Have you driven alone when carpooling could have been an option?
>Have you bought anything made in Taiwan, Mexico, Vietnam?
>Have you purchased grapes or chocolate during the workers rights boycott?
>Have you ever purchased or rented pornographic material?
>Have you ever thought that maybe the woman did want to do it then
>regretted it later and said it was rape?
>
>All of us, if we were truly being honest with ourselves would have to say
>yes to some of these. And these (and countless more) are the ways that we
>oppress one another. I do not know you so I don't know what things you
>do or say. But *you are to blame*. There's simply no getting around
>it. My mother taught me that when I'm to blame for something the best thing
>to do is accept it and try to make amends not deny my responsibility.
>
>Sincerely,
>Monte'
Monte':
Oh, boy, that's an eye-opening list. I have to say "yes" to 9 out
of the 14. Guilty as charged.
I think (unlike the name-calling others have done) it nails me to
the wall and makes a very good point.
I apologize.
Al
