In a message dated 3/13/1999 9:26:02 PM Eastern Standard Time,
[EMAIL PROTECTED] writes:
<< People might at least try inquiring of the moderator of this list if she
considers her professional colleague in New Zealand to be a sexist. >> dees
quote
Oh, why bring the moderator into this..is this a veiled threat? Is it Behave
and accept the patriarchy or I'll set the moderator upon you for her opinion
rules supreme?? >>
GS,
If the moderator did not think her colleague was a sexist, would that prevent
you from reading what he wrote and deciding that you felt he was one?
Should it prevent any one from deciding it, if they felt that opinion?
Joe Dees has no power over anyone on this list. We don't think we do either,
but he doesn't know that he doesn't. He is hoping that "the system" will
reinforce his power. He is not disagreeing with you on facts, he is telling
you what your opinion is allowed to be.
I have found that the consistent conflict for me in our interaction. It is so
easy to type an email, but in real life, I would never have the patience for
him, and if I had to hear him vocalize the things he said, especially in the
patriarchal white male tone, it would not have lasted half of the first
paragraph of the first email from him to me. I would have sent him away. He
seems to be the kind of man who would try to be physically overbearing, and I
would have to set an eldridge cleaver type man against him to protect me. Or
utilize one of those defensive techniques to protect myself.
I don't even think he is aware that his "power" doesn't exist into our minds
to tell us what to think, much less into our lives to dictate our behaviours,
expressions of feeling.
Nicole
