Well I am looking for somebody smart like you.I'll proabaly have to wait to find some one as refined and intelligent ..Perhaps even a life time or two.I am humbled..You are right..It was a choice of poor words.Usually the attempt to be honest and forward and open are botched and are clumsy attempts for me...Hey it worked with my second wife and I really miss her and so I thought I would give it another try.Incidently I just want to say just because you meditate regularly and for 32 years doesn't always mean all your lines of developement as Ken Wilber would say are on par or the most mature or evolved.I am not saying this to justify anything but only trying to introduce some ideas here that others may or may not be aquainted with..Yeah my words were poor on a social level or cultured social level but I am essentially very uncultured..I am not unclean or an ogre or ignorant though..Just wanting to spread my wings and be me as I am and grow from there..Hey good luck to you too in what ever you do. I think you also commented to some one and said.., "I hope they don't have children"
Well if that was a comment to me I happen to have four children.One is a college professor of antropology at Portland State University.She speak four languages fluently..Another daughter is a fourth grade elementary school teacher.One son is s sou chef at the Benson Hotel in Downtown Portland and the youngest I am almost certain is a reincarnated tibetan lama..Well I guess I am not as crude or ogre like as I even think sometimes.. Now if this was a centering prayer email list I would have really been a good boy but hey since its a t.m list I am just myself. I think it goes like this..." Get good and get god" no no Get God and get good yes yes' MMY hey have a nice day . Alan --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "alan" <alan.kuntz@> wrote: > > > > well she deifinitely has to be your friend and not only > > willing but wanting the same thing.If she has a spiritual > > esoteric dharma mind and realizes that I do as well she > > could probably laugh and say I want to give this guy a big > > hug..Man is he ever hungry..Yeah some would be turned off.. > > I'm sorry I can't really help them other than tell them to > > lighten up. > > It isn't a matter of lightening up or "helping" them. > It's a matter of how a woman is likely to perceive a > man who refers to having sex as "drilling," because of > what it says about how he perceives sex: it's something > he *does to* the woman, not something they do together, > not something they share. And there's also a rather > ugly undertone of violence involved. > > There are probably some women who prefer that approach, > who enjoy being the hole a man does his business in. > I and most women I know would find it offputting. > > And that may not, in fact, be your attitude; you may > just have chosen your words poorly. But that's all > I'm pointing out: it's a poor choice of words if > words (especially written words) are the medium > through which you're making your initial appeal. > > In any case, best of luck to you. I hope you find what > you're looking for. > > > > > Instead of saying drill and hole we will say I am the Shiva > > and she is the Shakti or how about the yin and the yang...drill and > > hole is ok though :-)I like the idea of drilling a heart and mind > as > > well as the body with sat chit ananda..Peace my friend > > Alan > > > > > Tell ya what, from a woman's point of view: the term > > > "drilling" would turn me right off. Maybe it has some > > > esoteric tantric meaning, but to me it doesn't suggest > > > much in the way of mutuality or reciprocity. You're the > > > drill, and the woman is what, the hole? > > > > > > <snip> > > > > > > > I am looking for a female companion to meditate with > > > > > > > and some one who is capable, willing and wanting a > > > > > > > regular tantric savanaka drilling :-) > > > > > >
