Someone *not* a part of any of the ongoing Judy Debates commented on it yesterday, pointing out that she was acting like a sixth-grader. I responded by pointing out that she was actually acting more like a person suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder.
The larger phenomenon, however, for anyone who actually *cares* about Judy Stein and her eventual return to sanity, is the "pile on" phenomenon we see so often on Fairfield Life, which is in my opinion a form of Co-Dependent Borderline Personality Disorder. Judy's BPD *feeds* on *feedback*. What she seems to want more than anything else is *approval* from the imagined throngs following her every word. Note the ongoing attempts to berate people for *not* following every word of her BPD- fests, as if they were the Word Of God, and "deserved" to be not only read but applauded. And all that it takes to "get her started" again is for one of her sidekicks (now that Raunchy has wisely decided to lay low, limited mainly to Nabby, Willytex, and JohnR) "piling on" by saying something like, "You really 'got' him that time, Judy." CHARACTERISTICS OF CO-DEPENDENCY Denial Patterns: * I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling. * I minimize, alter or deny how I truly feel. * I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well being of others. Low Self Esteem Patterns: * I value others' approval of my thinking, feelings and behavior over my own. Compliance Patterns: * I am very sensitive to how others are feeling and feel the same. * I value others' opinions and feelings more than my own and am afraid to express feelings of my own. * I put aside my own interests and hobbies in order to do what others want. Control Patterns: * I believe most other people are incapable of taking care of themselves. * I attempt to convince others of what they "should" think and how they "truly" feel. * I become resentful when others will not let me help them. * I freely offer others advice and directions without being asked. * I have to be "needed" in order to have a relationship with others. Any of this sound familiar? Especially how she reacts when someone who was once one of her co-dependent sidekicks figures out her act and dumps her? See post #242793, in which she lashes out at do.rflex for no longer holding up his end of the co-dependent relation- ship, or post #242791, in which she wishes one of her old co-dependents Lawson were still around to "back her up" and provide "pile on" feedback to her. Personally, I tend to find the co-dependent sidekicks somewhat sadder than the person suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder, because although they are equally liable to perceive themselves as "attacked" when someone challenges a mere *idea* that they believe in, they are also willing to let someone else respond to the perceived attack, and to "cheer her on" when she does so. In my opinion, one of the things that *keeps* Judy locked into Borderline Personality Disorder is the "piling on" from her co-dependent sidekicks. If they actually cared about her, I think they'd join wiser folks on this forum by ignoring her BPD outbursts instead of encouraging them. But they don't. WHY? Well, one reason is that they're cowards and want to let someone else "fight their fights for them." Another reason is that they are just as TM-elitist as Judy is, and want to see her "win," even if she and they are the only people in the universe who perceive a "win" in acting like a sixth-grader. Having been stalked by Judy Stein for over 16 years now, it is my considered opinion that the *only* thing that can help her overcome her Borderline Personality Dis- order is the thing she fears the most -- being ignored. The illusion that people are "following" every word of her BPD tirades *fuels* them and perpetuates them. The "piling on" from her few remaining co-dependent side- kicks also *fuels* her BPD. If you care about Judy Stein, *stop fueling her insanity*. If by now you are just so annoyed by Judy Stein that you wish she'd just grow up and graduate into the seventh grade and STFU, *stop fueling her insanity*. And if you think I'm wrong in this armchair psychoanalysis of her and her behavior, just sit back and watch how she reacts to it.
