--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, turquoiseb <no_reply@...> wrote: > > ...not that I'm picking on you or anything, it's just that I thought > you'd be a good person to aim this generic rap at, because I think > you'll get it, whereas many here will not. :-) > > Have you ever noticed that the Hater Tots on Fairfield Life tend to > react the most strongly, the most vehemently, and the most > out-of-control angrily when we post something creative, something that > reflects the FUN we're having in the moment of having written it?
A clear lie. I enjoy your posts when you are not vicious and stupid, Barry. These recent ones (except for the part I singled out) were quite wonderful--as are many of Curtis's posts. I can assure you, when you write passionately in some way which is not the occasion to say silly and tendentious (and untrue) things, I enjoy your writing--and even hold out some notion of you being a really good guy. But examples like this, destroy whatever credibility you might have. You think I look for confirmation of my judgment of you, Barry? You are wrong. I look for redemption posts. One thing that is always the case with you, Barry: when someone goes after you, your reaction always expresses itself in the form of exactly what the person's description is of you. You are always proving the charges against you. Whereas all you would have to do is to deny what someone says about you FROM THE PLACE WHERE YOU KNOW IT IS NOT TRUE. As it is, you attack from inside the very character of yourself which has been the subject of satire or devastating judgment. I have no hatred for you--and I liked your photographs and your essay. But what you say here--pleading with your friend Curtis who is now heart-to-heart with Ravi (and appreciative of Authfriend's humour)--is what gives you bad press around here--did act upon laughinggull's exhortation to read my post to Curtis? Nobody hates on this forum except you, Barry. Does this post manifest the frustration and meanness you accuse me and others of harbouring in our souls because you (and Curtis) are HAVING SUCH A GOOD TIME OUT THERE? You'll figure it out some day, Barry; I am pretty sure of this. But you might have to give up everything before this happens. But that it will happen, I am convinced of this. The people who give you the hard time you deserve, they are the most loving among us, I reckon. You there, Barry? Send me some Christmas love, I am lonely. > It's like something in them feels the need to warp reality into their > shadow view of it: > > [http://i.huffpost.com/gen/867522/thumbs/s-ILLUSION-large300.jpg?4] > In this case (the illusion), the chair is bent but as the result of > careful spotlight placement the shadow seems normal. The Hater Tots tend > to do the opposite -- they see an interesting reality, and transform it > in their minds (and in their posted words) into something misshapen, > something hateful. Go figure. > > I sometimes wonder about this phenomenon. It's not -- obviously -- as if > I lose any sleep over this pondering, or actually spend any time > actually pondering it, but I sometimes wonder what it IS in some people > that makes them believe that because they post something on an Internet > forum, someone OWES them for their efforts. > > They see something that someone else has written and they react to it. > Sometimes rather strongly. Rather than deal with the essence of what the > other person said that pushed their buttons and that put them into > reactive mode, they focus all of their button-pushéd wrath on the > person who said it. > > It's like on some level they're screaming, "How DARE they be having FUN > with their lives when we've spent so much time and energy trying to > prevent that? How DARE they get positive feedback from other posters > here *for* having FUN with their lives when we've done all that we could > possibly do over the years to "poison the well" and try to insure that > no one EVER views them positively?" Go figure. > > I've always identified with the title of a great little book about > American expats in Paris during the Golden Age of Expats. It was all > about the era that Woody Allen romanticized so well in his film > "Midnight In Paris," the era of Hemingway and F. Scott Fitzgerald and > Cole Porter and Alice B. Toklas and Gertrude Stein and Picasso and Dali > and Bunuel and Man Ray and Josephine Baker together in Paris, the last > era in which the City Of Lights really blazed with creative light. I > always loved the title of the book. It seemed to get the point, > especially when it came to these free-thinkers, hounded and chased out > of their native lands, only to end up in a Better Place, having a Better > Time than those who had chased them away. > > The name of the book was "Living Well Is The Best Revenge." > > Here's my thinking...if the people who seem to have dedicated their > lives to hounding US, and to trying to make us feel as bummed out and > dead-ended as they must feel seem to be so powerfully affected by > indications that we're having a good time with our lives, we should just > strive to have even MORE of a good time with our lives, and to post > about these good times on FFL. > > Is that mean of me? Does that make me look like a sadist, or as some > would suggest, a psychopath? > > I think it just makes me look like someone who cares more about having a > good time than about the opinions of those who have never -- in some > cases given over 22, 550 posts to FFL -- demonstrated their ability to > have one. They can live in the past and base their lives and their > behavior on past impressions if they want to. I, for one, feel no need > to do so. Today is today, and damn!...it's kinda groovy. Given any luck, > it could turn into a groovy future. :-) > > > [https://fbcdn-sphotos-b-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-prn1/12155_5162658650\ > 73531_151404639_n.jpg] > > > <http://www.imdb.com/character/ch0064569/> >
