You had me at "man panties" [on you-know-who...]. Thank God THAT won't be searchable...
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, doctordumbass@... wrote: > > LOL, WB you are too much! > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "Ann" wrote: > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, doctordumbass@ wrote: > > > > > > Other side of the wall, AGAIN, Barry. Geez, you are one imprisoned soul. > > > Turn around 180 degrees, as I suggested earlier, watch yet another movie, > > > or TV show, or drink some psychoactive coffee (did you know coffee is the > > > most widely used psychoactive substance on earth?), or have a beer, or > > > visit a hooker. Anything to prevent you from facing the world which > > > upsets you continuously. > > > > > > It is one thing to complain and insult and whine, but the real difference > > > between you and most others who find something to whine about, is the > > > others Get-Over-It. You seem to be so lost in complaining, insulting and > > > whining, that you would rather do that, than getting off that soft, > > > lily-white ass of yours, and doing something about it. > > > > > > Note: Doing something about it means not spending all day pouring over > > > statistics in the FFL archives to yet make a larger complaint. Try facing > > > the REAL world, Barry, where the rest of us live. > > > > > > PS You'll know the difference because life experiences don't begin with a > > > title, and end with rolling credits. You'll figure it out after awhile. > > > > Will you marry me? > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, turquoiseb wrote: > > > > > > > > In studies I've read recently, researchers have found that those who > > > > score highly on a scale of neurotic behavior have a significantly higher > > > > risk of developing PTSD if exposed to a traumatic event. In the study, > > > > neuroticism was defined as a type of personality behavior in which > > > > people experience high degrees of anxiety in response to everyday > > > > events, and thus tend to overreact to those ordinary events. The > > > > hypothesis was that this tendency to overreact to the ordinary might put > > > > them at risk of developing PTSD if they were exposed to an extraordinary > > > > traumatic event. Well, the data backed that hypothesis up -- the > > > > neurotics *were* more likely to develop PTSD. > > > > > > > > PTSD is a disorder in which people are trapped in an endless loop of > > > > dwelling on and flashing back to the past. Some event triggered an > > > > initial reaction to the event, but this reaction fails to fade. It may, > > > > in fact, become stronger as time passes, and become very much an > > > > overreaction, leading to panic attacks, nightmares, sleep disorders, and > > > > resulting in the PTSD sufferers becoming easily startled and prone to > > > > emotional outbursts. They dwell on the past, can't get over it, and > > > > often attempt to get others to dwell on the same past, to as it were > > > > "share the misery." > > > > > > > > Now extrapolate these findings to the Internet, and behavior we see > > > > there. Most people are non-neurotic in their everyday Net behavior. > > > > Sure, they might get pissed off about something someone says and go > > > > FLAME ON for a few posts, but then the next day it's forgotten, and both > > > > the flamer and the flamee are having civilized conversations again. > > > > > > > > Others hang on to perceived affronts longer. In other words, they start > > > > to display neurotic behavior, taking an ordinary event and turning it > > > > into a Big Fucking Deal, one that they just can't get over. So they may > > > > stay in FLAME ON mode for longer than the non-neurotic Net denizens -- a > > > > week, or occasionally a couple of weeks. > > > > > > > > Then there are the ones who hold onto perceived affronts for years. > > > > > > > > They turn them into vendettas, pursuing the supposed perpetrator of the > > > > original affront in thread after thread, even the ones that have nothing > > > > to do with whatever was originally considered an affront. They actively > > > > attempt to persuade others to dwell on this past affront the way they > > > > do, often citing posts *from* the past and encouraging others to read > > > > them, so that they can become as affronted by and unable to get over > > > > something that happened in the past as the grudgeholder is. Whatever > > > > precipitated the original affront, the grudgeholders continue to > > > > overreact to any mention of it, or any contact with the supposed > > > > perpetrator of the affront as if it happened minutes ago, not years ago. > > > > At times it feels -- vibe-wise -- as if they're having actual > > > > *flashbacks* of the original event, reliving the emotions it provoked > > > > for them in the past all over again. > > > > > > > > This last behavior strikes me as the Net counterpart of PTSD. > > > > > > > > That's my theory, anyway. Cyberstalking and holding long-term grudges on > > > > the Internet is a form of PTSD. On a spiritual level it's also classic > > > > samskaric behavior -- allowing yourself to be ruled by past impressions > > > > you can't get over. > > > > > > > > Maybe if those studies that indicate that TM is helpful in the treatment > > > > of PTSD are correct, these long-term Netgrudgeholders could benefit from > > > > learning it. > > > > > > > > Oh. Wait. > > > > > > > > Many of them already practice TM, and have for several decades. > > > > > > > > Never mind. > > > > > > > > > >
