Yes, Ann! He sounds depressed because he watches two women give to one man and they ain't inviting him in! He waits for a rebound bonk, but will not be successful. Poor guy. heh
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, doctordumbass@... <no_reply@...> wrote: > > Your comments are hilarious Ann!! Barry is not making much sense here, > granted. He seems to focus on the very worst prejudices in others, and take > that as the basis for argument. Sounds depressed. Hope you had a great > Valentines Day! > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "Ann" <awoelflebater@> wrote: > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, turquoiseb <no_reply@> wrote: > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, obbajeeba wrote: > > > > > > > > Oh yeah, baby, free love if you let me. Lick that extra > > > > wet lick lick lick your face and all. Oh, don't forget > > > > that rubber! Hey, give me a full physical for everyone > > > > who swings and I will be a millionaire! > > > > Did you know that venereal disease is pretty common > > > > among the aging population? They like to wank the wong > > > > to barren wombs of the love canal! No pregnancy and > > > > viagra..whoopie! > > > > If it ain't good enough, time to wonder what her snatch > > > > feels like..and hers and his is bigger and turns to the > > > > left a bit more.. > > > > Good for you my ass. It means you are fucking bored with > > > > your partner. > > > > > > I shall allow this idiocy to stand on its own as an > > > example of why obba has never succeeded in her attempts > > > to flirt with guys on FFL. Who could even *imagine* > > > getting it on with someone that ignorant? > > > > Whoa, why the extreme reaction here Barry? Did you know that there are ways > > to address a difference of opinion with reason, class, openness and > > diplomacy? Yes indeed, it's true. > > > > > > Instead I'll focus in one of my last posts for the > > > week on the excellent article that Alex found and > > > posted. It's about bloody time that someone did some > > > real studies on polyamorous relationships, to help > > > overcome the idiotic ideas that monogomaphobes have > > > about them. > > > > We get the picture, anyone who is a monogomaphobe (which, of course is not > > even close to being a real word) is an "idiot". Oh, and you are about to > > enlighten all of us on why and how open minded and enlightened you are on > > the subject. Let's take a look: > > > > > > Living as I do as a non-involved fly on the wall in a > > > polyamorous household, I have a more realistic picture > > > of what is involved in nonmonogamous relationships than > > > most. If there is a single word that characterizes the > > > successful ones I've seen, that word is *honesty*. > > > > Ohhhhh, you are amazing. And what an original conclusion. "Honesty" who > > would have thought? And all this time I thought it was about how good > > looking the other partner was that kept a relationship intact. > > > > > > It's not about the sex, or as the idiot above suggests, > > > about being bored with one's partner. It's about having > > > the freedom to have more than one partner if one is > > > "drawn that way." Claiming that "there can be only one" > > > is as stupid in romantic relationships as it is for the > > > people who claim that "seeing other teachers" is suffic- > > > ient grounds to excommunicate someone from a spiritual > > > organization. And even in that parallel, as we all know > > > from the history of the TMO, people are willing to > > > *overlook* "straying" to other teachers AS LONG AS > > > THOSE WHO DO IT *LIE* ABOUT IT. It's the *openness* > > > and the *non-willingness* to lie about one's actions > > > or apologize for them that the sexual prudes and the > > > spiritual fascists hate. > > > > Let's see now, how sophisticated is Barry's rebuttal? How do his words here > > beckon us, entice us to read and take what he says seriously due to their > > reasonable nature and sense of empathy for the reader? He uses in the short > > paragraph above the following words and statements as the ultimate allure > > for us readers: "idiot", "stupid", "sexual prudes", "spiritual fascists". > > Gee, don't know about the rest of you but I'm transfixed by this human who > > could write this way. In fact, I am downright infatuated with love/lust. > > Barry, you're the man. > > > > > > I've seen the non-lying, open approach to relationships > > > WORK, and work well in nonmonogamous relationships. > > > Alas, I cannot say that for most of the monogamous > > > relationships I've been exposed to. While publicly > > > clinging to the notion of monogamy, all one has to do > > > is look at divorce statistics to see that over 50% of > > > them are more often than not a rats' nest of lies, as > > > one or both partners step out on the other, lying about > > > it the whole time. *And*, as pointed out in the article, > > > taking insane chances of contracting STDs while doing > > > so, because they're in such a state of denial about > > > what they're doing that they don't even carry condoms > > > with them. > > > > > > The person who benefits most from the particular non- > > > monogamous relationship I live with is 4-year-old Maya. > > > She is fortunate enough to have two loving mothers and > > > one loving father, not to mention a weird Uncle who is > > > not romantically involved with any of them but approves > > > fully of what they are doing -- all to take care of her > > > and teach her things. It's a remarkably *honest* envir- > > > onment, one that I'm pretty sure will enable Maya to > > > grow up to be honest herself. > > > > Methinks Barry has gone off on one big tangent here. Oh Barry, we're over > > here. > > > > > > Like the other members of the extended family I live with, > > > I often grow tired of the things that supposedly monoga- > > > mous people project onto nonmonogamous relationships, > > > and the holier-than-thou bullshit they proclaim, all > > > while screwing their secretaries and Pilates instructors > > > on the side and lying about it. Fuck them all. Give me > > > people who have the courage to be honest any day. > > > > I think he has hit a cesspool of bile here. Barry, spit it out, just don't > > get my shoes wet. > > > > > > The French had it right all along: > > > http://www.nytimes.com/2012/12/01/world/europe/mazarine-pingeot-mitterrand-daughter-looks-back.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0 > > > > > > Meanwhile, back in the TMO, you've got such a culture of > > > lying that Maharishi could never admit to getting it on > > > with his female students (and we can be pretty sure that > > > when he did he was in such denial about it that he didn't > > > use condoms) and that King Tony can't admit even to his > > > closest friends that he's legally *married*. No wonder no > > > one has any respect for TMers. They've turned hypocrisy > > > into an artform. > > > > Still on the other tangent and getting further away; will someone please go > > and bring him back? At this rate he's going to get lost, miss his afternoon > > nap and become even grumpier. Any volunteers? > > > > > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "Alex Stanley" wrote: > > > > > > > > > > http://news.yahoo.com/sexual-revolution-polyamory-may-good-154751829.html > > > > > > > > > > On Valentine's Day, images of couples are everywhere. They're buying > > > > > each other diamond rings, making eyes over expensive restaurant meals > > > > > and canoodling over chocolate-covered strawberries and champagne. But > > > > > two-by-two isn't the only way to go through life. In fact, an > > > > > estimated 4 to 5 percent of Americans are looking outside their > > > > > relationship for love and sex with their partner's full permission. > > > > > > > > > > These consensually nonmonogamous relationships, as they're called, > > > > > don't conform to the cultural norm of a handholding couple in love > > > > > for life. They come in a dizzying array of forms, from occasional > > > > > "swinging" and open relationships to long-term commitments among > > > > > multiple people. Now, social scientists embarking on brand-new > > > > > research into these types of relationships are finding that they may > > > > > challenge the ways we think of jealousy, commitment and love. They > > > > > may even change monogamy for the better. > > > > > > > > > > "People in these relationships really communicate. They communicate > > > > > to death," said Bjarne Holmes, a psychologist at Champlain College in > > > > > Vermont. All of that negotiation may hold a lesson for the > > > > > monogamously inclined, Holmes told LiveScience. > > > > > > > > > > "They are potentially doing quite a lot of things that could turn out > > > > > to be things that if people who are practicing monogamy did more of, > > > > > their relationships would actually be better off," Holmes said. > > > > > > > > > > [rest of story at link] > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >
