Learn 'the look' This is why I've been attracted to the tradition of Zen portraiture - Zen masters aren't shown as having some special "spiritual" look but are instead shown as angry, disgruntled, idiotic, enjoying a joke, or bored. That is: they're pictured simply being themselves - which is what they *are*!
---In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, <anartaxius@...> wrote : I found this on the Internet, as are most things discussed on FFL. As FFL is not direct contact with others, point four below probably has the most relevance. 1. Learn 'the look'. The look is the face and actions of a guy (or chick!) totally at peace, and at one with the universe. First, the face. Look at yourself in the mirror. What do you see? You see a guy (or a gal!) with worry lines and muscles pulled into the mask that people think of as 'you'. The enlightened master is relaxed and at ease, and his serene look shows it! Let your facial muscles go slack. Don't let your jaw drop open, but your lips should just barely touch each other. Your eyelids should be drooping, so that they are just touching the top of your pupils, and you should have just a hint of a 'Mona Lisa' smile. Get just the slightest hint of a smirk, like you *know* Victoria's secret! Not too much, though, or you'll ruin the effect. Practice this in the mirror every day until you can do it by feel. 2. Walk the walk. This is part two of 'the look', and is just as important. Chicks should get the feeling that you are relaxed, yet powerful, ready to spring into action, like a panther. First of all, SLOW DOWN! If you are at one with the universe, who are you hurrying to meet? Yourself! And you won't be disappointed if YOU turn up a little late, will you? Walk slowly and deliberately, letting your arms swing free. It takes a while to get the rhythm, but it is not as hard as getting the face right. Practice is the key. It's not you walking, it's God walking through you, baby! 3. Meeting people's eye. This might be the hardest part -- you have to be able to look directly at people, yet look through them at the same time. What do you usually do when you come across someone on the street or in the office? If you know them, you might look them in the eye and say 'hi', but if you don't, you look away. NUH UH. That won't fly. The enlightened master can look directly into the eyes of a stranger, because he is looking at himself! Of course, you won't be able to actually look into your own eyes unless you have had the 'big flash', so try this instead: look directly through people at things behind them, but not too far to the side. Look at the tree for a few seconds, the car for a few seconds, the sidewalk, that bird, whatever. You will look like you are looking directly into their soul if that is what they want to think (and believe me, the babes want exactly that!) and they will think you are looking at things behind that if they are uncomfortable thinking otherwise. This takes practice. 4. Conversation. It is not as hard as you might think. Just think, 'What would the Buddha/Jesus/Mohammed/Maharishi say?' Say you are at a party, and you have 'the face' and 'the walk' and you are sitting, relaxed, drinking a beer and talking to a babe. She asks you what you do for a living. Your response? 'I teach people how to live. That sounded weird... you know, some people just aren't comfortable in the world, and I help them out. I guess I'll never have you for a client. You look like you are extremely together, Denise. Oh, it's Carla? Well believe me, in another life it was Denise, and she was really together too.' See how easy it is? Babes want to be spiritual, and they want you to notice.