--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "authfriend" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, TurquoiseB <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > wrote: > > > > > > > > > What's strange is that I forgot to mention codependency. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Thanks for reminding me. > > > > > > > > > > > > Thanks for providing my morning chuckle, Vaj. :-) > > > > > > > > > > Says the comrade-in-arms while chuckling over jokes made at > > > > > the expense of someone with suspected and/or diagnosed mental > > > > > problems. > > > > > > > > Lighten up, Lawson. I was not laughing at the recent > > > > jibes made here about your medical condition, and do > > > > not support them. I was laughing at Judy's compulsive > > > > rush to "defend" one of the people she views as a > > > > "comrade-in-arms" and supporter. The 'codependency' > > > > Vaj jokes about is on her side, not yours. I found > > > > it funny, that's all. > > > > > > Actually, I took it as a jibe at me since "co"-dependency > > > is, well, a two-way street. > > > > > > You can't have a single person be "co"-dependent. > > > > You are correct, of course. I was just chuckling > > at the 'dependency' Vaj nailed in someone who has > > made an Internet 'career' out of trying to convince > > others that she's "right" and that they pretty much > > have to agree with her. Once she recruits someone > > into the position of agreeing with her fairly consis- > > tently > > In other words, *Lawson* is the co-dependent, the > one who is manipulated and controlled (or the "toady," > as Barry is fond of putting it).
That's pretty much what I thought (and still think) was implied. > > , then she seems compelled to dive in and > > "support" them any time they get into a challenging > > discussion. > > Actually this is bullshit, of course. I support > people who appear to me to be the target of unfair > criticism, whether I happen to agree with them or > not. The idea of supporting someone just because > it's the right thing to do is not in Barry's > ethical vocabulary. > > It's bullshit as far as Lawson is concerned as well. > He and I often disagree, but generally speaking we've > been able to do so amicably because we respect each > other. > > All I ask of anyone is sincerity, fairness, and > intellectual (and factual) honesty, not agreement. > > Oh, yeah, and the notion that *Barry* is somehow > above trying to convince people he's right is > laughable. Try disagreeing with him sometime and > see how he treats you. No matter how amicable you > are in your disagreement, no matter how often Barry > claims he's not trying to convince you of anything > and doesn't care if you think differently, you'll > be the target of his putdowns as long as the exchange > continues. > > > > > > > > So it's a dependency issue, not a co-dependency > > issue. Some people only feel comfortable about life > > when others agree with them on their illusions about > > it. Consensus reality, and all that... :-) > > > > > > I think you've been showing admirable restraint lately > > > > with the knee-jerk posting thang, and have been putting > > > > much more thought into your replies before pushing Send. > > > > IMO, that's a good thing, both for yourself and for the > > > > forum. > > > > > > Think of them as koans... There's far more thought in my > > > one liners than in my stream-of-consciousness paragraphs... > > > > I had noticed that, actually. > > > ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> Drugs Don't Discriminate. Get help for yourself or someone you know. http://us.click.yahoo.com/0I.OUB/ZbOLAA/d1hLAA/0NYolB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
