SHE is the one who had to deal with it. Our breakup came when I started screaming at her one day and she started crying. I was so ashamed and apologized. She said it was OK, just that the screaming made her homesick...
As I said, I am VERY glad she left. I have experienced people who formed their sense of normal in a deeply dysfunctional family. It doesn't feel "right" to them if there is harmony. They have to stir up antagonism to feel comfortable. I'll bet you are glad! --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "sparaig" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "curtisdeltablues" <curtisdeltablues@> wrote: > > > > Shit Spraig, you get more real by the minute. That sounds like a lot > > to deal with. > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "sparaig" <sparaig@> wrote: > > > > > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "Patrick Gillam" <jpgillam@> > > wrote: > > > > > > > > --- Rick Archer wrote: > > > > > > > > > > It may be someone¹s karma to suffer, but > > > > > we don¹t have to choose to deliver > > > > > it to them. On the contrary, we can make > > > > > it our karma to relieve them of suffering. > > > > > > > > One of my big frustrations has been my seeming > > > > inability to refrain from kicking people bearing > > > > "kick me" attitudes. I don't have a recent example, > > > > so maybe it's one of those undesirable behaviors > > > > that has fallen away due to increasing light. Dunno. > > > > But do you know what I mean? Has anyone here > > > > ever seen that someone obviously *wanted* to feel > > > > like a victim - that it was part of their identity (that > > > > nefarious instrument of ignorance, one's identity) - > > > > and you couldn't help but fulfill their desire by > > > > picking on them? > > > > > > > > I've done that, and immediately thought, "Wait, > > > > that's not the kind of person I want to be." But > > > > too late. > > > > > > > > > > My ex-wife was like that. AFter two weeks, we called it quits. I saw > > her again many years > > > later and she sent me a 9-page letter detailing her life after she > > left. It was filled with > > > constant beatings, first from her Dad, then from her brother-in-law, > > and finally from her > > > recently-ex husband. She was living in a halfway house for abused > > women when we met > > > on the bus 5 years after the breakup. > > > > > > I am VERY glad that she left me... > > > > > > > SHE is the one who had to deal with it. Our breakup came when I started screaming at her > one day and she started crying. I was so ashamed and apologized. She said it was OK, just > that the screaming made her homesick... > > > As I said, I am VERY glad she left. > To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
