Kind of amazing how personal some posts are. I appreciate your openness. I learned a new word today: "gynophobic", fear of or contempt for women! Subtly different from "misogyny" hatred, dislike, or mistrust of women, which is another word for this common attitude in some men in certain spiritual groups. Shankara seemed to be both according to his writings.
One thing I notice is that actually having sex frees up my mind to think of other things. An inactive sex life can lead to and annoying focus of my attention. Have you ever tried the opposite of celibacy for a month, a daily practice? It might change your mind about the value of celibacy. Your body gets very strong and healthy. Puts a grin on your face and a spring in your step for the whole day! --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, cardemaister <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Peter <drpetersutphen@> > wrote: > > > > I'm with you on this one, Curtis. If celibacy comes > > naturally, with no thought or strain, then fine. But > > most people need to have sex and guess what, it has no > > impact on your "evolution" at all. People can be so > > unsimple and so un-natural in the TMO. > > In my case that's a bit more complicated, so much so, > that it feels quite frustrating to try to explain it > in a foreign language. But I'd say it boils down > to the fact that I'm a gynephobic heterosexual. > Only recently I've realised the possible cause > for my gynephobia in case the cause is something that's happened > during this lifetime. The last time I was with > a women, I noticed she was not at all satisfied with > my "performance". I guess she could feel my tenseness > or something. So, in my case staying /uurdhva-retas/ is > not loosing much of intimacy. > Anyhow, the main reason why I asked that was the fact > that nowadays I often feel rather restless > if I "keep it up" more than, say, 2 weeks, whereas when > I was in my twenties, before I was initiated, > I seem to recall that I could once > do that for several weeks without feeling overly uneasy. On the > other hand "brahmacarya" seems to have some physical and > mental benefits, the weirdest of which is that the muscles > in my legs seem to, well, grow somewhat. That's important > for me because I'm rather self-conscious of not having that > much muscles overall, except for the "love-muscle" the size > of which I'm fairly satisfied with. -- Yikes! :) > I'm not intending to try to become /uurdhva-retas/ for > an extended time, but perhaps a month, or so, at a time would > be reasonable. > To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
