--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, TurquoiseB <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Sal Sunshine <salsunshine@> > wrote: > > > > On Oct 13, 2006, at 1:17 AM, TurquoiseB wrote: > > > > >> Judy, has it ever occurred to you that adults don't tell other > > >> adults > > >> what they'd "like you to do"? That it's usually up to the > > >> person to > > >> decide for him/herself what is best? I guess not. > > > > > > Some people are only comfortable in a situation in > > > which they are constantly told what to do and what > > > not to do. After thirty years or so of this, they > > > aspire not to enlightenment but to telling other > > > people what to do and what not to do. :-) > > > > Exactly. Condescension becomes a way of life, and if you can't > > beat em, join em, I guess. > > > > It's very doubtful Judy would put up with the manipulation in > > the TMO were it to really occur with anyone else, with any > > frequency at all. She'd simply find a new doctor, dentist or > > whatever. But it's impossible to admit she's been taken in all > > these years. > > Bingo. > > I really do think that that's the issue. She (and > many others) have a fairly fixed sense of self. > When it's challenged, and someone sees them differ- > ently, they feel the need to "defend" that imaginary > fixed self. And one of the things that a fixed self > *hates* to do is admit that it may have been stupid. :-) > > Those of us who are a little more fluid, and who are > used to laughing at ourselves (our selves, however > temporary and imaginary they may be) are often more > able to kick back and say, "Yup...I sure got taken > to the cleaners on that one."
You do realize, Barry, don't you, that none of what you've been saying has anything at all to do with the point I made, right? Neither does what Sal has been saying, for that matter. You're having yourselves a fun little conversation batting around a bunch of straw men in a complete vacuum. To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> Your email settings: Individual Email | Traditional <*> To change settings online go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/join (Yahoo! ID required) <*> To change settings via email: mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
