On Jan 15, 2007, at 2:08 PM, Vaj wrote: > Oh come on Sal, wouldn't you have loved your parents, as your first > gurus, to arrange your marriage partner for you! Mother knows best! > :-) > > (heaven forbid if you were gay)
I don't really have many problems with that particular tradition. It's appeared in most cultures all over the world, and, in general, seems to have worked better, at least historically, than what we've been able to manage in modern times. That's at lest one reason why it lasted so long. The problems come in when people deliberately match their kids with others they can pretty well guess will be unsuitable, because of wealth considerations, or whatever. But the tradition, when practiced responsibly, seems to have produced fairly stable families and cultures, at least in many places outside of India. Sal
