My compassion takes the form of tough love sometimes. If I hated her or felt nothing I would have ignored her. I suspect that the same is true of you. And Vaj and others. Silence is noncaring. Interaction, for better or worse shows willingness to change, or be changed through the contact, or at very least, to collude in a thought or two! I just worry that for poor Judy there will be no real transformation in this life into someone who might become a chakravartin rather than a chakrafartin.
-----Original Message----- From: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of TurquoiseB Sent: Tuesday, March 27, 2007 5:02 AM To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com Subject: [FairfieldLife] Addiction, and compassion for it --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, TurquoiseB <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "llundrub" <llundrub@> wrote: > > > > What the fuck are you going on about are you still ranting > > from this morning. You're sick in the head! > > Compassion, dude. Were you ever so strung out on > heroin that you had to "kick?" > > That's what's going on. > > She's so desperate to post and slam someone (her > drug of choice) that she shoots her entire wad > for the day before 10:00 a.m. in the morning. > And then she sits there -- quivering, shaking, > going through withdrawal, waiting till midnight > Fairfield time so she can "fix" again. > > It's really pretty sad, when you think about it. > She's been harboring that anger and that resent- > ment towards Rick for FOURTEEN HOURS now, > waiting until midnight, when she can "strike back" > and be "herself" again. > > If you'd ever worked with addicts, you'd recog- > nize the syndrome... I'm following up on this post because I suspect that some here will think that it's Just Another Attack Against Judy. I don't think it is. I think that addiction is the *correct* metaphor to use in her case. It's not just the fourteen hours she sat stewing over Rick "cutting her off" that's the issue here. It's the OVER TWELVE YEARS she's been cultivating and feeding this drug habit of hers. In just under two years Judy has made 8731 posts to Fairfield Life. That is an average of over 13 posts per DAY, and constitutes 6.4% of the TOTAL number of posts made to this forum in its just-under-seven-year history. Over on Google (Usenet), she made over 15,600 posts in twelve years, and that's counting only one of her IDs. Addiction. And now she's been forced into "rehab." Is there some *resistance* there? Well, duh. Instead of 13 shots of heroin a day, she's been limited to 5. Her body is going through withdrawal. And her mind is going through terror, because if she continues to "push the envelope" by ignoring the posting limits here, she'll be placed under moderation and *none* of her "gotta defend TM and TMers and Maharishi and above all my own reputation at all costs" posts are going to get through. And if that happens, there is nowhere for her to go. She can't go back to alt.meditation.transcendental. That would be too much of an admission of defeat even for her. TM-Free has already caught on to her act, so that's not really a viable forum for her, either. So yes, I think that addiction and withdrawal from that addiction is *exactly* the right metaphor. And as much as we'd like Fairfield Life to revert to relative civility overnight, as Rick says that just ain't gonna happen. Judy will continue to waste her five posts a day fighting imaginary battles against imaginary enemies because she's got a HABIT, man. And she's been *forced* into rehab; she didn't check in of her own volition. Even though the new policy is a Done Deal, and almost everyone else here seems happy with it, she'll keep bitching about it, and attacking Rick for implementing it, and trying to pretend that what she's bitching about is the ineffective nature of the new policy, and that it doesn't really stop the arguing and the trashing. News flash -- most of the arguing and the trashing is coming from HER, and now everyone on Fairfield Life can see that for themselves. That's not what she's really upset about, although she'll keep claiming that it is. What she's really upset about is that she's been CUT OFF FROM HER SUPPLY. Rick shot her dealer. The dude's lying dead in the street in a pool of blood. And Judy is panicking because she doesn't know where her next fix is coming from. So I really think some compassion is in order. She *isn't* going to change, in my opinion. For as long as she is allowed to remain on this forum she will use it as heroin to feed her addiction. The nature of HER posts will not change. It should be obvious to everyone here at this point that she CAN'T change. But we can. Treat her with the same compassion you would show to a heroin addict. As Richard Williams says, "Don't feed it." Judy LIVES to defend herself against "attacks," real or imagined. Those attacks, and the high she gets from retaliating against them, are her drug of choice. CUT HER OFF, for her own good. Don't give her any more excuses to feed an addiction that is killing her. To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links
