Being defeated is often only a temporary condition. Giving up is what makes it permanent. Marilyn vos Savant 1946-NA Pray to God but row to shore. Proverb "If you don't accept responsibility for your own actions, then you are forever chained to a position of defense."
Holly Lisle "You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you." Dale Carnegie