Absolutely - everything that you said - you expressed it so well. So
frustrating, and hard to evaluate the adopting woman's emotional
state. And I end up with such a duality of feelings. She mentioned
something about wanting to consider another kitty. I'm just going to
ignore her and not call her back, although I've thought about calling /
writing the vet.
Gloria
At 01:31 PM 12/14/2005, you wrote:
Gloria,
First my condolences on losing Chrissy this way! It's so frustrating when
people think they are doing the "right thing", but don't bother contacting
someone who they should know would be able to give them advice. I think
you may be right, this had more to do with the adopter's emotional state
than poor Chrissy's state of health. Shame on that vet for not
encouraging her more vigorously to treat Chrissy, and shame on her for not
contacting you. I've had adopters, that I thought were good homes do some
horrendous things too, (One poor kitty has been declawed, it haunts me to
this day). I can only imagine how upsetting this is to you. We try to do
the best we can when placing them. It seems like no matter how hard we
try, there are always going to be those that say one thing and do
another. This is why I'm good at rescue and rehabilitation, and lousy at
adoption. It's hard to have faith when there are so many people that
don't react the way we expect, or would hope them to. I feel like
hitting somebody, at the same time, I still feel sorry for the woman. If
she were in front of me, I'm sure I could manage to feel sorry for her and
hit her at the same time.
Nina
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Actually, the "owner" indicated that it was her choice because she
herself has had kidney stones and knows how much they hurt. She was new
to that vet, as she just moved (like 10 miles from her former
place). From what she said, she was just adamant about it, thinking she
was doing the right thing. I mentioned to her that bladder stones were
different than kidney stones, but she just said she didn't want her to hurt.
I think she was trying to do the right thing, without listening to
others. She's just getting over her mothers death, and seems to be
depressed. I think it was a bad decision for good hearted reasons.
Sigh again.
Gloria
