i read something once that really struck me--oddly enough, it was in an ann landers or dear abby column....
it was whether we would give up the joy we've shared with a loved one if it meant being spared the pain of losing them. looked at that way, there's no question for me--nor for anyone i've ever talked with--that the answer is "no." it is ALWAYS hard to say goodbye, even when we know it means peace for the one who's gone on, those left behind will always hurt. another, sort of kitschy, but sweet thing that i've heard is that the intense pain of a critter's passing is just their clawing their permanent space into our hearts.... they come to US, instead of to someone else, for a reason--because there is something only we can give them, and because there is something we need to learn that only they can teach us. i can't prove this, i just KNOW it. sometimes i feel guilty, because i think the furry ones who have blessed my life, be it for hours or years, have given me far more than i could possibly have given them. you gave mylo love, food, a roof over his head, the best medical care that you could provide, and a gentle passage surrounded by those who cared for him. think of how many humans cannot say that about their last days. your gifts to him were priceless, and he knows it. MC On 2/1/07, Chris Ramzy <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
Thank you for your email and everyone on the list that has offered kind, supportive words. I guess the best way to look at it is to cherish and remember the joy they brought to our lives and that should out-way letting them go. Ideally, that would be a good way to look at it, but we all know that can be difficult at times. So we just need to tell ourselves it was worth it. I'm glad Mylo was in my life. Maybe if he was with another family then he may have not been as loved...who knows. Maybe I made his life a bit better than it would have been otherwise and for that I have to say....it was worth it. Chris >From: Paolo <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> >Reply-To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org >To: felvtalk@felineleukemia.org >Subject: Re: Mylo's Passing >Date: Thu, 01 Feb 2007 16:06:59 +0100 > >Chris, I too went through that, too much times... and every time, >one just cannot believe it hurts so much, and to bear it once more seems >impossible... but... >Today, while I was at the vet's with Rompi, there was a lady with a >black kitty, female, two years old, with asthma... she was black with >a small white whiff under her neck... she was just so MAGIC, with that >look in her eyes, so tender... the look of "the good cat". I was about to >steal her right there! :) In that moment I understood that, >notwithstanding anything, it's impossible to live without cats, and that >the horrible, exhausting experience of "letting them go" is the toll for >what we have received from them during their life. We could discuss if >that toll is fair or too high, but that's it. > >Paolo >P.S. I'm going to call the vet's to ask when the black kitty with asthma >is scheduled next time... ;) > _________________________________________________________________ Windows Live Spaces: share your New Year pictures! http://discoverspaces.live.com/?loc=en-CA
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