There is absolutely no rhyme or reason to grief as far as I am concerned. It seems like it can come back & hit you at any time. I have found that it helps me to visualize my departed babies having fun & living in paradise at the bridge. I also talk to them. I imagine them telling me that they are ok & not to be sad, because we will be together again. I still cry, but doing this does make me feel better. Take care of yourself & remember that it isn't your fault. You love Aspen & would do anything for him & he knows that. yvonne
