The numbers are quite shocking.. But do you have information whether it's 75% from 100% people filing for divorce or from 100% married women or what ? What does the 75% represent ? Are they all muslim women ? I don't think these women filling for divorce meant that they no longer respect marriage as a sacred. They enter the whole marriage scene with good intention and believing that this will be forever only to find out that their dreams are shattered and they got hurt by the very man that suppose to protect them. What choice does that leave them ... I admire these women for having the courage to stand up for themselves despite the fact that it's against all the values they've brought up with.
Maria On 7/16/07, Nana P <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > http://afeministblog.blogspot.com/2007/07/divorce.html > > Today Monday 16 July 2007 the local newspaper quoted data from Dirjen > Bimas Islam (Islamic Societal Councelling) that mentioned high percentage of > divorce in big cities. In Jakarta, 75% married women filed divorce, in > Semarang, my hometown, 70% women did it, while in Surabaya, the capital city > of East Java, 80% women did it. This data was stated by Khofifah Indar > Parawansa, the chief of Muslim women division of Nahdlatul Ulama, one > biggest Islamic social organization in Indonesia yesterday in Sragen, one > town located in Central Java. > Khofifah stated that the high percentage of women who filed divorce was > engendered by irresponsible husbands toward the wife and family. > Irresponsible husbands caused unhealthy and disharmonious relationship in > the family. Furthermore, Khofifah also mentioned that the high death rate in > pregnant women was also caused by husbands who did not really care toward > their wives' health and welfare. The representatives of United Nations > Children's Fund in Indonesia added that financial constraints gave a high > impact toward the relationship between men and women. Thus, eventually this > triggered the increasing rate of women filing divorce. > In my opinion, we must not forget that the increasing number of women > filing divorce is also caused by at least two factors: > > the fact that more women become more financially independent. More women > work so that they no longer depend on their husbands financially. They do > not need to feel worried that they will be difficult to survive after > divorce due to financial constraints. > Women become more confident and comfortable in their life. They no longer > view marriage as a sacred institution so that they have to sacrifice their > happiness only to go on living in hellish marriage due to irresponsible and > selfish husbands. They believe that they also human beingsand not just the > second sexthat deserve to make their own choice in their life. > On the contrary, this change in women's behavior (refer to options one and > two above) does not mean that men change their behavior. They still consider > women as the second sex so that they can go on treating their wives to their > heart's content. They still think that their wives will still adore them no > matter how badly they treat the women only because they are phallic > creatures. > If people from religious organizations condemn what those women donot > viewing marriage as a sacred institution anymore and break their marriage > more easily than their predecessors, women from feminist organizations will > support them. Besides, Khofifah, as one representative of one Islamic social > organization, daringly mentioned that the increasing number of women filing > divorces is caused by irresponsible husbands. Isn't it high time for those > so-called "religious" and patriarchal people change their perspective in > viewing this phenomenon? > PT56 14.35 160707 > > Minds are like parachutes, they only function when they are open. > (Sir James Dewar) > visit my blogs please, at the following sites > http://afemaleguest.blog.co.uk > http://afeministblog.blogspot.com > http://afemaleguest.multiply.com > > THANK YOU > Best regards, > Nana ===================================================== Pojok Milis Komunitas FPK: 1.Milis komunitas FPK dibuat dan diurus oleh pembaca setia KOMPAS 2.Topik bahasan disarankan bersumber dari KOMPAS dan KOMPAS On-Line (KCM) 3.Moderator berhak mengedit/menolak E-mail sebelum diteruskan ke anggota 4.Kontak moderator E-mail: [EMAIL PROTECTED] 5.Untuk bergabung: [EMAIL PROTECTED] KOMPAS LINTAS GENERASI ===================================================== Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Forum-Pembaca-Kompas/ <*> Your email settings: Individual Email | Traditional <*> To change settings online go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Forum-Pembaca-Kompas/join (Yahoo! ID required) <*> To change settings via email: mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
