Long term relationships are an interesting bounding case. Like an esoteric academic community, but a smaller and more rigid set of alternative lenses. For some, inferences are evidence built on experience. For the couple, only by seeking assistance of a therapist (or lawyer) can they be disentangled. For the analogous academic community, maybe a referee that can see the incestuous situation. Every minor gesture is projected into a latent space no one else can see. With enough at stake, priors are sensed everywhere. The paranoia is mutually reinforcing, and racing in circularity and depth.
From: Friam <[email protected]> On Behalf Of Jon Zingale Sent: Wednesday, September 23, 2026 10:54 AM To: The Friday Morning Applied Complexity Coffee Group <[email protected]> Subject: Re: [FRIAM] mentalizing threats The image I have in mind is of the husband sensing at different levels of perception: successively deeper degrees of modeling, mediated by increasingly object-structured priors. I intend *Objective* here to mean structured around objects, not *most real* or however some people try to use the word. Two analogies come to mind: 1. Optical processing or convolutional layers: Building objects from the neuronal activity of earlier layers. 2. The mathematical practice of studying a space through its hom-sets: taking a loop, for example, considering its maps into a space, then quotienting by an equivalence relation, i.e., the general game of doing homotopy theory. I mention these because one might use sensing broadly enough to include higher-order objects, while hoping that an empathetic conversational partner will correctly and perhaps lazily infer the intended domain of definition. Still, in the case of threats and allegations, one *should* be open to clarifying what exactly is to be taken seriously.
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