Brad,[snip]
And some have great families - even unto the third generation - that are a great part of life.
Don't be so mournful and if you must be then surround optimism. Your only direction is up.
Do I rightly peceive this message as being received in my email many times?
Anyway, I have nothing against families *in their proper place*.
I think having good parents and extended family is a great blessing, and I also think that having children can be an enhancing part of an otherwise fulfulled life.
But I think Melanie Klein got it right in the following which I hav eprobably quoted here before:
Enjoyment is always bound up with gratitude; if
this gratitude is deeply felt it includes the wish
to return goodness received and is thus the basis of
generosity. There is always a close relation between
being able to accept and to give, and both are part
of the relation to the good object [prototypically,
the nurturing mother] and therefore counteract
loneliness. Furthermore, the feeling of generosity
underlies creativeness, and this applies to the
infant's most primitive constructive activities
as well as to the creativeness of the adult.
(Melanie Klein, Envy and gratitude and
other works, 1946-1963, 1975, p. 310)I think Arthur's story of the man who didn't want to be deprived of his commute is relevant here. Would that man have been so defensive about his commute if he had a genuinely synergistically facilitating wife at home and work situation?
\brad mccormick
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Let your light so shine before men,
that they may see your good works.... (Matt 5:16)Prove all things; hold fast that which is good. (1 Thes 5:21)
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