Hi Manish, This is a very good view and I second everything you have said. This is the time we have to stand together, realize the importance of relationship and start valuing them rather than just using the "relation" just as a means of sex. I really appriciated when you said ..
(I quote) If I love a person I should be able to do everything with him..... (un quote) This is something that I really believe in. If not for him, whom else would we be for and I am sure, once you find the true love, your mind and body does not have boundaries! Take Care, Neil --- In gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, mahesh patil <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > There is no ambiguity that man requires society from cradle to grave...I have met many people who say that they can do without anyone in their life and they rather concentrate on their work than frivolous things like"RELATIONS". Well the issue becomes all the more complex when same sex relations come into picture... > Do we really need someone in our life?Someone special?Is it necessary to make compromises for someone?Can there be something like an unconditional love?Or is it that gay relations are primarily based on SEX and arise out of physical intimacy only?Before answering all these we first need to realise why we need relationships....? > > According to me in our community which is so very normal in every way relationships hold a special place and are very much necessary for our outmost survival...Gays are looked upon by the society as somethings which are derogatory..mind you people regard us as "it",a thing...an unwanted element of the society ,to the extent that our expression of love(anal sex) is considered as a "criminal act"...Family and peer acceptance is something very relative and differs from people to poeple...some undersatnd it some dont... > > What I want to stress upon is that a "monogamous relationship,eventhough a gay relation" confers the individuals a feeling of "acceptance" which is very important...It confers social and emotional security....It gives one a sense of "optimal dependence"....We as gay people can have our own family, a institution which helps one to improvise upon oneself...There need not be any staright guys sympathising and assuring that "Yes,we are there for you"...We have great minds amongst us who can guide amateurs through their experiences...We have excellent professionals who can render their services...But all this can happen when we stay as a family.... > > I mainly wrote this note because I get very upset when people just emphasise on the "TOP- BOTTOM" aspect of being gay.Yes SEX is necessary but moreover its the expression of ones emotions and love! It is an channel to share ones physical warmth with his lover.It teaches one to be gentle at the same time manifest ones energy and vigour....all for his partner.Its very wrong to label one as a "Top" "bottom"....Well I guess its a matter of ones choice and ones temparament at that point of time(when one is having sex).If I love a person I should be able to do everything with him..... > > In a nut shell...We are an respected part of the society and the respect can be earned if we learn to respect ourselves...Being Gay is a matter of pride as we are a master piece of Gods creation having a unique blending of feminine tastes and masculine assets... So please friends, take your relationships seriously....Mind you Relationships are weapons which can stand all odds......Take care..... > > Please write in your comments! > > > --------------------------------- > Yahoo! India Matrimony: Find your partner now. > ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> Give at-risk students the materials they need to succeed at DonorsChoose.org! http://us.click.yahoo.com/Ryu7JD/LpQLAA/E2hLAA/WfTolB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> Group Site: http://www.gaybombay.info ========================== This message was posted to the gay_bombay Yahoo! Group. Responses to messages (by clicking "Reply") will also be posted on the eGroup and sent to all members. If you'd like to respond privately to the author of any message then please compose and send a new email message to the author's email address. Post:- gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com Subscribe:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Digest Mode:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] No Mail Mode:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Individual Mail Mode:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Contact Us:- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Archives are at http://www.mail-archive.com/gay_bombay%40yahoogroups.com/maillist.html Classifieds for personal advertisements are back on www.gaybombay.info site. Please exercise restraint in the language of your personal advertisement. Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/gay_bombay/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
