That made we weep a bit. THANK YOU for posting it. It didn't have any answers ... but it had hope!, and that's all you usually get in life. HOPE. Bless you.
Peter --- In gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, Carmen Baez <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > Hello to all: > > I am a straight female from a puerto rican family. Mark, I am going to tell you about my brother who is gay. As you may or may not know the latino culture is full of machismo, and very very catholic. My brother is one of 7 sons my father has, and six daughters. My father expected his all of his children to grow up and have families, hard working , honest , family men, what he deemed to be the natural order of things. Everyone thought there was something wrong with my brother mentally, they never ever suspected or contemplated that he was homosexual. They thought he was and treated him as though he was mentally impaired . My brother did not act feminine or anything like that I dont even think he knew he was gay for a long time. It was just unheard of in our culture. Well to get to the point , I think you under estimate your family, because as my brother became a man and became aware of who he was he met a gentlemen and began a secret relationship and it was as if a > flower where flourishing, my brother was no longer acting like the person who was mentally impaired, he became the kind of man my father wanted him to be. My brother started a home with this man, (they have no children ) but they are happy. And although my brother never actually came out to our family everyone is just happy that he is happy, and I personally heard my father say in a private moment to my mother, "i dont agree with my sons lifestyle but i am glad he is happy, he is a good son, a good brother and a good man" my father only wished he would have children. My father was proud of my brother till the day he died. My brother and his companion of 16 years where at my dads funeral together. So dont under estimate those who love you. and never ever think you have the right to take the life that god and your parents gave to you. > > asfan <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > Hi Joy, > It may be difficult, but not impossible, to say no to marriage. > There are hundreds of us who are still in the closet yet still unmarried. > I am 67 yo and still unmarried. When my mother was insisting I get > married (my father had died while I was still studying) I would just say > I didn't want to get married and give no reason for saying so. Of course, > she died disappointed but I think it was all for the better. > > You have only relatives to contend with. Which would make things easier. > Also, your staying abroad makes it easier. > > I am sure that if you have patience and wait you may meet someone of > your liking. > > As for contemplating suicide, FORGET IT. Immerse yourself in your work. > Go out and meet friends. Or take the help of a counselor. Suicide is not the > answer. Be brave and face the world. You won't be the first and you won't be the last!! > > Wishing you all the best, > > Asfan. > > joy bs <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > Dear Mark, > Your ideas are so nice, i am 34 yo, and fighting against marriege. I am working in DXB and came back to India for a short veccation. But i feel i didn't want this veccation and feel to go back to work. > I have no parents, i am still alone, all my sisters got married and living separate. Now my relatieves and friends are trying for my marriege. Its make my life so misarable. I dont want to marry, but everyone telling me , how you will live alone, who will take care of you. How can you live alone here? I Know out culture is so difficult. And i am tired of telling no....... > I was trying for a life partner ( gay) for the last 10 years. I couldnt find any gays. And i always feel that the gays are not trustable,and dependable. They will go when they meet another atractive one. > Really i am so confused about my life. I dont know what to do? I am always thinking about suicide . Otherwise what to do? > You can see my profile in gaydar page... > www.gaydar.co.uk/joybs > Thank you > Joy > > Mark Gory <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > NOT AN INTERESTING IDEA IT IS STUPID, THIS IS YOUR LIFE NOT YOUR FRIENDS, PARENTS, OR ANYONE ELSE IT IS YOURS, I HAD TO TELL MY PARENTS NO AND OH WHAT S SHOCK BUT I STOOD MY GROUND AND TODAY THE LOVE ME FOR WHO AND WHAT I AM. I HAD A FRIEND THAT GOT MARRIED AND DIED AT THE AGE OF 31 YEARS BECAUSE HE WAS NOT HAPPY HE JUST DROPPED DEAD HE WAS SO MISURABLE HE HAD A JOB THAT TOOK HIM OUT OF THE STATE A LOT SO HE DID NOT HAVE TO BE WITH HIS WIFE WHO HE REALLY DID NOT WANT TO BE WITH ANYWAY BUT WHY GO THROUGH SOMETHING LIKE THIS YOU ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE TO LIVE AND YOU SHOULD NOT ACCEPT ANYTHING BUT THE BEST FOR YOU! ! ! ! ! ! MARRAGE IS FOR THOSE WHO FEEL IN THERE HEART THEY WANT THIS AND NOTHING ELSE BUT FOR PARENTS ! ! ! ! ! ! ! TO SAY YOU HAVE TO GET MARRIED YOU MUST STAND UP AND SAY NO !! ! ! ! !IF NOT HELL NO ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !YOU WILL FEEL BETTER IN THE LONG RUN AND REMEMBER YOU WHERE CREATED THE WAY GOD WANTED TO CREATE YOU AND IT IS NOT FOR PARENTS OR ANYONE > ELSE TO CHANGE OR FORCE YOU TO BE ANYTHING ELSE. > GOD BLESS YOU I WILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU, I DO NOT KNOW WHAT YOUR RELIGION IS BUT WE THERE IS ONLY ONE GOD AND I WILL PRAY FOR STRIGHT AND GUIDENCE FOR YOU IN THIS MATTER. > GOD BLESS YOU, > REV. DR. MARK WILLIAM GORY > > > ----- Original Message ---- > From: amit dhaundiyal <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com > Sent: Saturday, April 7, 2007 2:57:51 AM > Subject: Re: g_b I want 2 marry a lesbian > > interesting idea, let me know if u have any leads > --------------------------------- > Here¢s a new way to find what you're looking for - Yahoo! Answers > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Never miss an email again! > Yahoo! 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