Salil, Thank you, aap ney bahuton kay dill kee baat kah daali.
-Aditya
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I have been in a long term relationship.......................
I do not know where you get your ideas from, but maybe it stems from some
personal frustrations. Next time you meet somebody who is relation worthy and
interested, try giving more to the relationship than you get from it. Of course
you do not have to transmogrify into a doormat in the process. I think if you
do that, there is a fair chance that it would work.
Best,
Aditya B
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On 04/06/07, Salil <salilmumbai@ yahoo.com> wrote:
Suhail
Try writing shorter emails. Many readers of this list ( I guess) have better
things to do than to read the same sentence thrice, as it happens to appear in
your email (I did read through the whole of it, only to discover that the email
was long not because you had much to say, but because u repeated your lines).
You could have just said -
"1. Some older gay men who have been in and out of relationships don't take my
views on relationships seriously, and I don't like their attitude because I
think they are stubborn and mistaken in many ways.
2. my advice to all young men is that, well-taken photos increase the chances
of getting gay dates".
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Salil, Thank you, aap ney bahuton kay dill kee baat kah daali.
-Aditya
Bahuton ke dil ki baat kya hai, yeh mujhe bhi pata hai....aur khaas taur pe aap
ko to pata ho gi hi...kyuki aap to har doosre par kuch na kuch sarcastic
comments pass karte hain.....aur agar yaad ho to aap ki is aadat par bhi ek
baar behes chid chuki hai....khair.....
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The e-mail is very long...it may waste your time
Hi
First of all I completely agree to what Jamie wrote thats a real complete
e-mail written very perfectly, but everyone has his/her style of writing and I
have my own.
Where I get my ideas from, well I get my ideas from people only. And its good
that you have been in a long term relationship and you should be happy and
thats really good. But what I dont understand is why do you have to get
irritated on my e-mail, if you dont like my e-mails say that you dont like them
you apparently get irritated and always write in a non-pleasent sarcastic
way...its not a decent behaviour to make indirect references, and please dont
give advices if I should turn into a doormat or something else, its not
pleasent. I get several personal replies to my e-mails where it hasnt been a
single time that someone has not written this "please dont take seriously what
some of the members are saying, continue writing", or "I always wait for your
e-mails" or expressed their appreciation. Some also write 2-3 words like "you
rock" and some even say "your emails suck to the maximum". So I know if some
dont like, there are many who like.
About the scene of LTR among gays everyone knows that, you know it, I know it,
everyone knows it, goto internet and read surveys and other news on LTR among
gays. And I am not frustrated at all, why should I be frustrated, I have lived
and am living my life with self-respect and dignity and I am not an old guy
frustrated with life, I think I am quite young and I have many other things in
life other than this, and if thats a symbol of high-headedness then you have
mistaken.
Anyways personally I think you are nice guy, its just that you dont like the
way I write and its ok, everyone cannot like everyone, but is that a nice thing
to make such references "that if I turn into a doormat, it might work". Its
not.
May be the language of my e-mails is too harsh and may be thats why I end up
irritating few same people all the time. Otherwise there are also always who do
like what I write. You are a lawyer (I think) and quite a popular known face
among gays in India, I really dont expect these kind of replies from you where
it seems you are getting some sort of some satisfaction in belittling the
writers and most of them know its just not about me, as many personal replies
said (around 15-20) "I stopped writing because of constant bugging from some of
the members who have no other job than finding faults, entering debates,
passing comments and insulting"
Everyone has his/her opinions if many express them why cant I, I am going to
express what I think, because I know if there are some who dont like, there are
obviously many who see it objectively and like. So if you dont like what I
write you dont have to read the e-mails from me. And if you want to reply,
reply as much as you want, call myE-mails "utter bull-shit and nonsense" but
dont make references about my personal life, and dont give me personal advices
because I dont need them.
About my e-mails being long, if you dont like long e-mails dont read them but
please dont give excuses that you dont have time, because if you dont have time
and you are concising my very long e-mail and even presenting a precis of it to
me and others, then what else can I say.....
Last but not the least I will from now avoid entering into any useless
arguement, I will write, some may like, some may not like, entering into
arguements and belittling others is not a positive thing to do, personally I am
a very positive person and those who know me, know that well. Sometimes I get
impulsive but thats ok, I am a human after-all, and writing sugar-coated
e-mails is also not in me because thats not my style so I cannot help much the
language of my e-mails though I will try.
And yes this is the last e-mail till I find something exciting to me and few
others to write, as already there arent many regular writers on this 16000+
members group.
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