Folks... I thought I had heard it all before! But since the 2nd of July, this is the 3rd time I am hearing this one - and the first time in print. The other variants were: If only the judgement had come a few years ago; Should I have waited a few days before making my decision? This "I got married coz it was criminal to be gay till 2nd of July" definitely tops the others I had heard before: 1. I did it for family reasons 2. I did it due to societal pressure 3. I didn't want to grow old alone / I want someone to take care of me when am old/unwell and my personal favorite 4. I don't cheat with a woman so its really not infidelity
Give it a rest people!!! One makes the best decision one can at the time with the experiences and the best information one has at that time. Now live with the consequences of that decision. Or go ahead and "reverse" that decision. There is no need for excuses - especially laughable ones that are an insult to common sense and intelligence - or make a laughing stock of oneself - even in the virtual world. Pratap --- On Sat, 7/4/09, modera...@gaybombay.in <modera...@gaybombay.in> wrote: From: modera...@gaybombay.in <modera...@gaybombay.in> Subject: g_b pray that gays will now have the courage to withstand social pressure To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, "gay_bombaygroup" <gay_bombaygr...@yahoogroups.com>, "GayAhmedabad" <gayahmeda...@googlegroups.com>, "GayBangalore" <gaybangal...@googlegroups.com>, "GayBombay" <gaybom...@googlegroups.com>, "gay-bombay" <gay-bom...@yahoogroups.com>, "GayBombay Blogger" <gaybombay.sasha1...@blogger.com>, "gaybombaygroup" <gaybombaygr...@googlegroups.com>, "gay-bombaygroup" <gay-bombaygr...@yahoogroups.com>, "Gaybombayonline" <gaybombayonl...@googlegroups.com>, "Gaycalcutta" <gaycalcu...@googlegroups.com>, gaycalcuttagr...@yahoogroups.com, "GayChennai" <gaychen...@googlegroups.com>, "GayChennaiYahooGroup" <gaychennaigr...@yahoogroups.com>, "GayDelhi" <gayde...@googlegroups.com>, "GayIndia" <gayin...@googlegroups.com>, "Gayindiagroup" <gayindiagr...@googlegroups.com>, "GayMumbai" <gaymum...@yahoogroups.com>, "GayMumbai" <gaymum...@googlegroups.com>, "gb-group" <gb-gr...@yahoogroups.com>, "LGBTIndia" <lgbtin...@googlegroups.com>, "lgbt-india" <lgbt-in...@yahoogroups.com>, "time84x...@post. wordpress. com" <time84x...@post.wordpress.com> Date: Saturday, July 4, 2009, 2:50 AM -----Original Message----- From: pest quest [mailto:roman2roman2002@ yahoo.co. in] Sent: Saturday, July 04, 2009 11:53 AM To: modera...@gaybombay .in Subject: high court judgement dear sir, i am an ordinary indian citizen, a gay, who realised his sexuality after marriage [ or would never have]. the trauma of leading a double life & cheating on his wife is not what any gay would want. yet, over the years, our conditioning [specially because of the criminal angle to male to male sex], has made us succumb to pressure & marry a girl, thereby ruining the lives of all involved. this judgement is a landmark judgement for the society at large, because it recognizes the individuality of a human being to choose how he wants to live his life in the society, without being looked down upon as a criminal. i only wish & pray that gays will now have the courage to withstand social pressure & say an emphatic NO to hetrosexual matrimony, understanding that they have been given the freedom to choose by this judgement. gays should also remember that now their conscience will never let them rest at peace if they still choose to marry, inspite of the recognition of their choice by the society. i wish to congratulate and thank all those gay activists who have suffered the brunt of coming out in the open to take up cudgels on behalf of closeted cowards like us -- to make india a better place to live in for gays, henceforth. prashant kanpur
