I'm interested in adding the "Coming Out Letter" to my anthology. Please tell me who wrote the letter so that I may get their permission to use it.
Thank you. Tonja Bagwell, MA, PC Publisher Jafansta, Inc. www.jafansta.com =========theer is an email in the coming out letter . it is geeko...@mac.com correspond with him regards To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com From: modera...@gaybombay.in Date: Sun, 13 Dec 2009 15:58:00 +0530 Subject: g_b Coming out letter from a married man and a father Courtesy movenpick elist Pasting a coming out letter from another group. Hope it helps someone. Regards Moderator Sharing my coming out letter to my parents Posted by: "Geek, Only" geeko...@mac.com Sat Dec 12, 2009 3:30 am (PST) Dear all. Am sharing my coming out email to my parents. Not that i think it is good. Just think it can always be useful to others. It went ok. The best part of the story is that it's my daughters who came to the rescue and took the phone to counsel my parents. :-) ----------------- Dear Parents, It is not easy to write this email and what I am going to say will probably surprise you. So, maybe I will be brief and to the point. I am writing to share a personal development that makes a difference in my life: Over time, I have become gay. Over the years I saw my sexual preference evolve. At the age of 20, I identified as heterosexual. I married and had children happily. I regret nothing and these were good times. Gradually, however, I felt a change in me that took me towards bisexuality. There have been relatively unimportant things, but I spoke about it to my wife seven years back. Then there was a committed relationship with a man for over three years, as a result of which my wife and I separated. Last year, this relationship broke up, and I returned back to married life. However, I think that today, I identify as gay. My wife, children and siblings are aware of this situation. It was hard for my wife, but she now came to some acceptance. My children are very accepting. Right now, we keep a co-parenting link with our children under a same roof and we have good quality of life. However, my wife and I are looking into options for the future. We are not worried because there is much goodwill on both sides. We will find a solution that accommodates everyone and that keep havens of time and space for quality co-parenting. There would be many reasons why I could have avoided to talk to you (protect yourself etc..). It would have been also easy to hide because I live far away from you. But in fact, as a father, and despite all our past disagreements and tensions, I think that if I were you, I'd rather know. That's the very reason why I broke the silence. There are some details that I wish to mention. First, there is no need to look for reasons or responsibilities. Sexual preferences are identity issues. They are fundamental. That is why those who live a different sexual identity have the right to tolerance. They have not chosen it. It is like being born with a specific skin color; although in my case, I think there was an evolution. Second, there is no need for discussions or comments. We are all doing well. Finally, there is nothing to hide. This is something intimate and personal, but it can be shared and there are no secrets about it. Finally, there is no need to ask too many questions. It's like that only. I understand that you may accept this piece of news with difficulties. I can say three things about it. First, nobody has had more difficulties handling this than me. I suffered, but now I'm really comfortable with the situation. So there are no reasons to be sad. Second, I am not asking for acceptance on your part. If you have a problem with the whole thing, it’s OK. Finally, and this may sound strange, but beyond our differences, misunderstandings or past disagreements, it's somehow out of respect and affection for you that I preferred to let you know. 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