Guys,
Just gentle reminder...
-Omky
--- On Sat, 8/1/11, Moderator Prayatna <moderator_praya...@yahoo.com> wrote:
From: Moderator Prayatna <moderator_praya...@yahoo.com>
Subject: [Prayatna_pune] Prayatna 4th Meet :Coming out (Part II), Jan 15 '11
To: prayatna_p...@yahoogroups.co.in, gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com,
gaybom...@yahoogroups.com
Date: Saturday, 8 January, 2011, 8:57 PM
Hello
With overwhelming response in the 3rd meet we ran short of time & so decided to
continue our interaction in the 4th Prayatna meet.
We will continue with sharing of coming out experiences with family, friends &
at workplace & their reactions.
Then we shall try to understand the spectrum of parental responses to their
child's coming out.
We hope to intersperse this session with a few more film clips & some readings
related to 'coming out'.
The details of our 4th Prayatna Pune meet is as follows -
Date: January 15 (Saturday)
Time: 5.30 - 7.30 pm
Venue: Open Space
B-301, Kanchanjunga Building, Kanchan Lane, Off Law College
Rd, Pune 411004.Phone: 020-25457371
We look forward to seeing you all
there.
Regards,
Omky
--------------------------Report of the 3rd
Meet-----------------------------------------------
The 3rd meeting of the new "Prayatna' Pune group was held at Open Space on Dec
18, 2010 from 5.30 to 7.30 pm.
There were about 20 gays, including one from Thane.
The theme was 'Coming Out - Part 1' viz. 'Coming Out to Family".
The
meet began with a clip from 'Summer In My Veins', the wonderful film by
Nishit Saran, recording his 'coming out' to his mother & her
natural response.
The
small informal group then shared their personal stories of 'coming out'
& 'not having come out', which lasted almost 1 & 1/2 hour.
Those
gays who were out narrated their tales of why they came out or had to
come out to their parents & siblings. A special thanks to many who
shared a lot of intimate details in the process. They talked about their
relief of not having to live a double life & being free of fear. It
was interesting to hear the vast spectrum of coming out experiences
from silent coming out to many discussions to coming out after finding a
partner; as well as parental responses ranging from crying to
explanations to emotional blackmail for marriage to a woman etc. One gay
even talked about his clear regrets at having come out to his mum, as
it has worsened their relationship by creating more problems.
Those
who haven't yet come out to their family shared their difficulties or
why they don't feel the need to do so, or feel that time is not ripe.
Some felt that their sexuality was just a small part of them & so
coming out was irrelevant.
We read from a 'coming out' guide book on the theme of what is the advantage of
coming out.
Coming
out was understood as a continuum from coming to terms with oneself
(which we covered in our last Prayatna meet) to living openly.
Coming
out is totally an individual decision & hence the numerous
questions that one must put to oneself before one decides on coming out
were dealt with.
We
eventually ran short of time & so decided that we would continue
our interaction on coming out in the next Prayatna meet on Jan 15, 2011.
This meet will continue with sharing of coming out experiences with
family, friends & at workplace, understand the different parental
responses, as well view a few more film clips & share some related
readings.
We would be happy to hear from those who attended the meet.
