Kris I would suggest that she speak to a counselor. This could be because of some psychological reasons or some kind of trauma or some unfortunate event in very early childhood. Most of the cases are because of the above reasons. A psychiatrist would be able to help this girl more. Marriage to a "pressurized" gay would not be the right solution.
Thanks little prince-Sanjay N Lulla ________________________________ From: Kris Bass <kris.b...@gmail.com> To: gaybom...@yahoogroups.com; Gay Underscore <gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com>; LGBT-India Forum <lgbt-in...@yahoogroups.com>; queerker...@yahoogroups.com Sent: Sat, February 19, 2011 12:15:57 PM Subject: g_b A strange plea for help Hi everyone, I got this message from a friend of mine. It's about a friend (woman) of his who's finding it hard to come to term with her sexuality and sexual orientation. I'm pasting the contents of the message below. "i know a very nice, homely, cool girl who is also highly qualified. She likes rock and roll and is a vocalist. she's 24. she's frigid...unable to have sex. family pressure to get married is mounting to a point where she might just decide to end it all. i think you understand better what a fragile situation this is...this is worse than rape. She wants to meet guys who are gay, but have similar pressures on them to settle down "with a girl". This way she can be helped...and someone from the male gay community can also breathe easy. I'm all for the "coming out of the closet" thing. But Kris i also know that there must be people out there who are struggling with gaining acceptance towards their sexuality. Maybe we can help 2 people... i have seen her state, man. imagine what she'll have to go through...it bought tears to my eyes...she is a very caring and loving person..." I don't know what to tell my friend. Should I talk to her? Should I suggest that she speaks to some counsellor? Maybe someone at Humsafar trust? Do you think she can find someone gay who'll agree to forge a 'marriage' with her? Please advice! Kris -- http://engayginglife.blogspot.com "Remember that if men were not meant to be sucked, their bodies wouldn't have come with a nozzle!" - A Gay
