As a mature daddy myself, may I make a few suggestions, please: 1. Be oblique, but candid. These approaches are pretty clear, but not so blatant you will have no way out if you have figured things wrong.
"I think you know, Maximilian, that I like you." "It is flattering to have a mature gentleman take an interest in me...especially one I think is (handsome) (interesting) (attractive) (admirable)." These statements should allow him to respond in a way that will make things clearer. For example: A. Yes, my wife likes you also and hopes that you will be interested in our daughter when she is older. Ooops. Oh well. B. I like you very much. You are like a son to me. Hmmmmm. He doesn't know what he is saying, I'm guessing. But this dumb response at least means you can try again. C. Let's go out to dinner sometime? This man is quick. Grab him! 2. You suggest dinner, but include him in the decision. "Max, do you think it would be a problem at work if we went out to dinner sometime?" 3. Ask for his advice on a "personal" problem, perhaps as a way to arrange lunch or after work. Make the personal problem related to being gay, but not specific. "Max, my family is pressuring me to get married. That is all they think about. I am tired of hearing it." All of these devices are really a way of letting him him know that you are open to talking. Believe me, talking is much less of a commitment than putting your hand on his knee. Although it is not completely clear, I assume from what you write that you work with this man AND you are not certain he thinks of himself as gay. Proceed cautiously. You don't want to lose a job or create a mess at work. Finally, you said something about ending up in bed. If that is a disaster or a flat tire or just a mistake, facing this man at work day after day could be miserable. Don't rush anything. On behalf of mature daddies, thanks for your interest. S. On Sep 6, 2012, at 7:26 AM, 4U4Ever wrote: > > Dear friends > > I am inclined to matured daddies. > One of my matured colleagues shows much affection towards me. > I am not sure he is also of my type, so am hesitant to open up. > How to know that he is also interested , or how can i proceed to end up in > bed ?? > > Regards > > > >
